Marvels & Mischief

Good intentions...

2012-01-16T21:23:00.001-08:00

I came across this article from Huffingtonpost.com. Totally hit home for me. I have felt this pounding in my chest when people tell me this (mostly older, well intentioned women). Much of the time guilt washes over me and I have to remind myself I am ONE person. My favorite is "Target" waiting time and "time out" time. You just don't understand it until you are a parent. Many blessings and many challenges...

Don't Carpe Diem

Posted: 1/14/12 11:57 AM ET

Every time I'm out with my kids -- this seems to happen:

An older woman stops us, puts her hand over her heart and says something like, "Oh, Enjoy every moment. This time goes by so fast."

Everywhere I go, someone is telling me to seize the moment, raise my awareness, be happy, enjoy every second, etc, etc, etc.

I know that this message is right and good. But, I have finally allowed myself to admit that it just doesn't work for me. It bugs me. This CARPE DIEM message makes me paranoid and panicky. Especially during this phase of my life - while I'm raising young kids. Being told, in a million different ways to CARPE DIEM makes me worry that if I'm not in a constant state of intense gratitude and ecstasy, I'm doing something wrong.

I think parenting young children (and old ones, I've heard) is a little like climbing Mount Everest. Brave, adventurous souls try it because they've heard there's magic in the climb. They try because they believe that finishing, or even attempting the climb are impressive accomplishments. They try because during the climb, if they allow themselves to pause and lift their eyes and minds from the pain and drudgery, the views are breathtaking. They try because even though it hurts and it's hard, there are moments that make it worth the hard. These moments are so intense and unique that many people who reach the top start planning, almost immediately, to climb again. Even though any climber will tell you that most of the climb is treacherous, exhausting, killer. That they literally cried most of the way up.

And so I think that if there were people stationed, say, every thirty feet along Mount Everest yelling to the climbers -- "ARE YOU ENJOYING YOURSELF!? IF NOT, YOU SHOULD BE! ONE DAY YOU'LL BE SORRY YOU DIDN'T!" TRUST US!! IT'LL BE OVER TOO SOON! CARPE DIEM!" -- those well-meaning, nostalgic cheerleaders might be physically thrown from the mountain.

Now. I'm not suggesting that the sweet old ladies who tell me to ENJOY MYSELF be thrown from a mountain. These are wonderful ladies. Monkees, probably. But last week, a woman approached me in the Target line and said the following: "Sugar, I hope you are enjoying this. I loved every single second of parenting my two girls. Every single moment. These days go by so fast."

At that particular moment, Amma had arranged one of the new bras I was buying on top of her sweater and was sucking a lollipop that she must have found on the ground. She also had three shop-lifted clip-on neon feathers stuck in her hair. She looked exactly like a contestant from Toddlers and Tiaras. I couldn't find Chase anywhere, and Tish was grabbing the pen on the credit card swiper thing WHILE the woman in front of me was trying to use it. And so I just looked at the woman, smiled and said, "Thank you. Yes. Me too. I am enjoying every single moment. Especially this one. Yes. Thank you."

That's not exactly what I wanted to say, though.

There was a famous writer who, when asked if he loved writing, replied, "No. but I love having written." What I wanted to say to this sweet woman was, "Are you sure? Are you sure you don't mean you love having parented?"

I love having written. And I love having parented. My favorite part of each day is when the kids are put to sleep (to bed) and Craig and I sink into the couch to watch some quality TV, like Celebrity Wife Swap, and congratulate each other on a job well done. Or a job done, at least.

Every time I write a post like this, I get emails suggesting that I'm being negative. I have received this particular message four or five times -- G, if you can't handle the three you have, why do you want a fourth?

That one always stings, and I don't think it's quite fair. Parenting is hard. Just like lots of important jobs are hard. Why is it that the second a mother admits that it's hard, people feel the need to suggest that maybe she's not doing it right? Or that she certainly shouldn't add more to her load. Maybe the fact that it's so hard means she IS doing it right...in her own way...and she happens to be honest.

Craig is a software salesman. It's a hard job in this economy. And he comes home each day and talks a little bit about how hard it is. And I don't ever feel the need to suggest that he's not doing it right, or that he's negative for noticing that it's hard, or that maybe he shouldn't even consider taking on more responsibility. And I doubt anybody comes by his office to make sure he's ENJOYING HIMSELF. I doubt his boss peeks in his office and says: "This career stuff...it goes by so fast...ARE YOU ENJOYING EVERY MOMENT IN THERE, CRAIG???? CARPE DIEM, CRAIG!"

My point is this. I used to worry that not only was I failing to do a good enough job at parenting, but that I wasn't enjoying it enough. Double failure. I felt guilty because I wasn't in parental ecstasy every hour of every day and I wasn't MAKING THE MOST OF EVERY MOMENT like the mamas in the parenting magazines seemed to be doing. I felt guilty because honestly, I was tired and cranky and ready for the day to be over quite often. And because I knew that one day, I'd wake up and the kids would be gone, and I'd be the old lady in the grocery store with my hand over my heart. Would I be able to say I enjoyed every moment? No.

But the fact remains that I will be that nostalgic lady. I just hope to be one with a clear memory. And here's what I hope to say to the younger mama gritting her teeth in line:

"It's helluva hard, isn't it? You're a good mom, I can tell. And I like your kids, especially that one peeing in the corner. She's my favorite. Carry on, warrior. Six hours till bedtime." And hopefully, every once in a while, I'll add -- "Let me pick up that grocery bill for ya, sister. Go put those kids in the van and pull on up -- I'll have them bring your groceries out."

Anyway. Clearly, Carpe Diem doesn't work for me. I can't even carpe fifteen minutes in a row, so a whole diem is out of the question.

Here's what does work for me:

There are two different types of time. Chronos time is what we live in. It's regular time, it's one minute at a time, it's staring down the clock till bedtime time, it's ten excruciating minutes in the Target line time, it's four screaming minutes in time out time, it's two hours till daddy gets home time. Chronos is the hard, slow passing time we parents often live in.

Then there's Kairos time. Kairos is God's time. It's time outside of time. It's metaphysical time. It's those magical moments in which time stands still. I have a few of those moments each day. And I cherish them.

Like when I actually stop what I'm doing and really look at Tish. I notice how perfectly smooth and brownish her skin is. I notice the perfect curves of her teeny elf mouth and her asianish brown eyes, and I breathe in her soft Tishy smell. In these moments, I see that her mouth is moving but I can't hear her because all I can think is -- This is the first time I've really seen Tish all day, and my God -- she is so beautiful. Kairos.

Like when I'm stuck in chronos time in the grocery line and I'm haggard and annoyed and angry at the slow check-out clerk. And then I look at my cart and I'm transported out of chronos. And suddenly I notice the piles and piles of healthy food I'll feed my children to grow their bodies and minds and I remember that most of the world's mamas would kill for this opportunity. This chance to stand in a grocery line with enough money to pay. And I just stare at my cart. At the abundance. The bounty. Thank you, God. Kairos.

Or when I curl up in my cozy bed with Theo asleep at my feet and Craig asleep by my side and I listen to them both breathing. And for a moment, I think- how did a girl like me get so lucky? To go to bed each night surrounded by this breath, this love, this peace, this warmth? Kairos.

These kairos moments leave as fast as they come- but I mark them. I say the word kairos in my head each time I leave chronos. And at the end of the day, I don't remember exactly what my kairos moments were, but I remember I had them. And that makes the pain of the daily parenting climb worth it.

If I had a couple Kairos moments during the day, I call it a success.

Carpe a couple of Kairoses a day.

Good enough for me.

Dude points

2011-12-08T13:27:00.000-08:00

Our sweet & rambunctious little dude

About two months ago, Isaac started earning "dude" points. My friend Rachael does something similar with her son and I loved the idea of catching kids doing the right thing at the right time. I will admit I was hesitant about a point system, how to keep track, etc but it has been really effective and honestly, fun to look for opportunities to reward Isaac.

This is how it works: Jason or I witness Isaac do or say the right thing at the right moment and we tell him with a big smile he's just earned a dude point. For example, this morning, I asked him to clean up the railroad track his sister and I had built yesterday and he had destroyed afterschool, and he sat down and started putting the track pieces into the box. He earned a dude point by simply being obedient. No questions, no whining, just doing. Other ways he has earned dude points is doing something thoughtful for his sister or if we see him do something helpful without being asked.

I taped a sticky note (I know-pretty high tech) on the fridge and we put a slash mark for each dude point earned. Sometimes we make the mark, sometimes Isaac. It has been good motivation for him to look at it and count how many he has left until he gets to pick his "dude time."

When he earns 10 dude points he gets to choose to do something fun with his dad for "dude time" that's somewhat out of the ordinary. Our weekends lately have been filled with chores, Christmas decorating etc. Last Saturday we dropped everything, loaded up the car and went to one of our favorite parks to play football. Nevermind that it was 34 degrees outside and Elyse and I lasted for about 10 minutes. He and Jason played for another 20 minutes.

It is something we primarily do at home, once in a while in the car if he's especially helpful with Elyse etc. But something somewhat unexpected that is pretty cool is the good choices carry over outside of our house. It just reaffirms the idea that once you get certain things "down" at home, ie. potty training, boundary setting you can be surprised at how well they carry over outside your house.

The dude points have been a game changer for me in that I had been battling the broken record syndrome. I felt like I was saying "settle down Isaac," "quieter Isaac," "please don't do that Isaac," every few minutes. Now, I do my best to focus on what he's doing RIGHT so that the little things, the wrong things, don't bug me as much. Almost like a verbal lesson for me that's taught me to be more patient and focus on the good.

Sanity saver

2011-10-31T07:33:00.001-07:00

One of many sanity savers Jason and I are thankful for. This Safety 1st finger pinch wedge slides on the side of your interior doors. Has saved many, many fingers and averted the awful sound of doors slamming that can accompany tantrums.

Happy Dance!

2011-10-29T07:41:00.000-07:00

Elyse went #2 in the potty yesterday! Hooray hooray! She's had #1 down for about a week and a half now...but #2, as it was with Isaac, has been a bit of a struggle. I've used this potty chair for both my kiddos (we invested in 2 for each of the main bathrooms) and it is great because she can use it all by herself if she needs to. She still needs help with clothes but one of the things we've been doing is when we know she needs to take care of business, we take all of her clothes off. She's never had a #2 accident that way...must be the "clean" thing some girls are all about, and perhaps part of what can make potty training girls a little easier. This chair is probably not the sturdiest on the market, but it is fairly affordable and gets the job done. I had forgotten how GREAT it is not to be spending so much darn money on diapers. You may get them in bulk at Costco, but I winced everytime I saw $38.99 in the checkout line. So glad we're using less (still @ naptime and bedtime) and saving some cash! Fingers crossed our potty success continues!

This will be a tough one to return!

2011-10-25T12:50:00.000-07:00

(thanks Amazon for the screen grab) :)
We are a HUGE fan of the King County Library System. I am constantly impressed with the selection of books, availability of NEW books and how efficiently their system runs. THIS will be a hard book to return for us :) We've read it several times now, and I have put the other children's books by this same author on hold. Can't wait to see what the others have in store. The plot of the "Gruffalo" just delighted Isaac.

Yummo!

2011-10-25T12:42:00.001-07:00

I've always been a huge fan of Italian food. In the last 2 weeks I have stumbled on a recipe I cannot get enough of. It is comfort food that gets better everyday it sits in your fridge. I am loving bringing it to work as leftovers. Super simple and fewer ingredients than lasagna.

Baked Spaghetti

1 -16oz pkg of spaghetti
1 pound ground beef
(optional split ground beef and Italian sausage)
1 medium onion chopped
1 -26oz jar of spaghetti sauce
1/2 tsp seasoned salt
2 eggs
1/3 cup grated Parmesan cheese
5 Tbspn butter melted
2 C small curd cottage cheese (we do less)
4 C shredded mozzarella cheese (we use more :)

Cook spaghetti. In large skilled then cook beef and onion over med. heat. Once meat is done, stir in spaghetti sauce and seasoned salt. Set aside.

In large bowl whisk the eggs, Parmesan cheese and butter. Drain spaghetti and add to egg mixture to coat the spaghetti completely.

Spray large dish with Pam spray-place half the spaghetti mixture into the dish. Top with some cottage cheese, meat sauce, then mozzarella cheese. Repeat layers. Cover and bake at 350 degrees for 40 min. Uncover, bake 20-25 min longer until cheese is melted. I wish I'd taken a picture but I forgot! I hope you love it as much as we do!

Favorite Books

2011-09-27T08:20:00.001-07:00

As Elyse gets a little older, we're really starting to be able to enjoy our morning & evening reading time together. It is fun to see what each of the kids points out in the books and which ones they choose to read over and over again. These 3 books are a few of our favorites:

Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs
Dirty Joe the Pirate
Goodnight, Goodnight Construction Site

Things I love this very moment

2011-08-05T14:52:00.000-07:00

1. My hubs and my kids

2. Febreze Hawaii scent air freshener

3. celery with peanut butter

4. no makeup days

5. my job

6. the way Elyse says "up, up" when we get her snug as a bug in bed. that means bring it up alllll the way under her chin

7. how Isaac has made his room a baseball field...grand opening day and all..complete with the American flag, base lines with streamers and books as bases

8. happy endings for families in crisis

9. sneaking in 10 min. reads in my library book

10. THE SUN! August is MY month!

11. that my sister is about to leave for Italy. I think everyone of us siblings and spouses are insanely jealous about what she's about to experience

12. church. love having a sense of community with people with shared values. it takes a village it really does!

Happy 2nd birthday Elyse!

2011-07-09T23:24:00.001-07:00

I cannot believe our baby is 2. How is that possible? She is funny, sweet, sometimes sassy and I'd like to think a pretty smart little girl. Some fun facts about Miss Elyse as she reaches this 2 year milestone:

-she loves cake, but thinks ice cream is too cold (much to the joy of her brother and dad...more for them!)
-she has a shy side...but get her in her element and she's talkative and often bossy
-it is a good day if she gets to watch "Letter Factory" and "Jungle Junction" in the very same day
-"Jungle Junction" is her conversation starter. When she meets someone for the first time she often will say "Jungle?" as in the kid is going to respond with, "Jungle Junction?" Pretty funny.
-she will find water, no matter where you might be...she's drawn to it (hence, the lifejacket she wears)
-she loves to swing, she gets into a zone after a while and says, "more swing!"
-she and her brother are starting to play well together....it took 2 long years but we are finally getting there. Part of it is Isaac is learning to negotiate using "trade" and "take turns" it is so nice that she actually understands these terms now...
-she loves any kind of meat...beef, ham, chicken, turkey. But don't bother with any bread. She will set it aside as though it is "bad"
-one of the first thing she says in the morning is, "vitamins?" she loves the chewy sugar covered vitamins from Costco. how bad are those for their teeth?

So very wise

2011-06-11T11:02:00.000-07:00

Thank goodness for mommy mentors. I am borrowing this post from Jen Russell of sunny Cali. She shared it from a friend...who encountered a very wise mama. These were her pearls of wisdom:

1. She says that she tells her kids that TV is like dessert. They don't have it all the time, but it's nice to enjoy it every once in a while.
2. She tells her kids that if someone has enough courage to ask you to dance, you dance with them one time.
3. She only volunteers for things that directly connect her with her kids. She doesn't do PTA or join committees where her kids aren't seeing the volunteer work. She wants them to see her and be there with her. She will chaperone or coach or things like that.

A good read

2011-06-09T13:50:00.000-07:00

There is really nothing better than snuggling with my kids (right now mostly Isaac b/c Elyse is on the run most of the time) and reading a really good book. Some friends and I recently shared a book list, which I plan to post here soon. Here are some that our family has enjoyed in the last month.

Badger's Parting Gifts (personal favorite) by Susan Varley
Lighthouse by Robert Munsch
Charlie & the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl(this was a true page turner for Isaac, he could not wait to see what was happening on the next page)
Mud Puddle by Robert Munsch (love the imagination in this one)
The Sandcastle Contest by Robert Munsch
Alligator Baby by Robert Munsch
Flat Stanley and the Haunted House
The Mystery of King Karfu (another favorite) by Doug Cushman
Makeup Mess by Robert Munsch
Stellaluna by Janell Cannon
Edward and the Pirates by David McPhail

What are some of yours? If you leave them in comments I will share them!

"No!"

2011-05-22T12:22:00.000-07:00

What happened to my sweetie pie who said "yes mama" or nodded in compliance and did what I asked? She's been replaced by a defiant almost 2 year old who isn't just saying no she's saying it with attitude. Oh super. Today when I told her it was time to go inside after playing outside (and having given her a warning playtime was almost over) she told me, "No!" I really need to capture it on video b/c it just takes you by surprise. She's happy and calm one moment and the defiance she pours into that simple word is jolting. We're using the "uh oh looks like some quiet time" technique we learned the first time around with Isaac courtesy of Love & Logic...we'll see if we can nip this one in the bud soon. To be continued...

Parental dilemma

2011-04-16T07:25:00.001-07:00

There are some news stories that make me physically cringe and feel like I could throw up. The one that's gotten to me in the last week is the one about a young Tacoma man who hung out near a Federal Way school playground and eventually kidnapped an 8 year old girl from there. He had been talking to children, and adults from what I understand, about taking photos of the kids. He even took a picture of himself with the playground in the background with his cell phone. Later police would identify one of the girls in the background, as his victim's older sister. He's charged with kidnapping the girl, taking her to Target, buying a Scooby Doo DVD, a swimsuit, candy, shorts and flip flops for himself, among other items. Police say he took the girl to his Tacoma home, they changed, and went to Bally's at University Place where they swam and spent time in the sauna. Later they went back to his house where he showed her a pornographic video and exploited her in a way no child should ever have to experience. He dropped her off about 4 horus after she vanished near her home. She showed up at her front door with the Scooby Doo DVD in her hand and told her parents she had been alone.

What bothers me so much is how and why no one who witnessed this odd guy hanging out day after day at the playground thought to ask school officials or even police about him. I realize this guy had only a traffic citation on his criminal record but I hope that if there's ever someone like this hanging around children who aren't his (or hers) that parental instinct will come in and someone won't be too shy or afraid to simply ask about him. I can't imagine all this little girl will have to go through the rest of her life and how this horrible experience could have been avoided.

The story and situation has been weighing so heavily on my heart I am sure my poor hubby is tired of hearing about it. Jason and I have had the conversation with Isaac about strangers, only going places with a trusted adult and only when your mom and dad have told him to his face that it was ok etc...I feel like we've really sheltered Isaac from daily news (I think Japan's quake and tsunami was the first big news story we really explained, talked about with him etc) I worry about putting too much into that little guy's brain. He already thinks through things so much I don't want to burden his sweet spirit with the negativity. But I felt compelled to explain in very vague terms what happened to this little girl so he could understand how something like it could happen. I went back and forth on whether to share this story with him (hence, parental dilemma-yes I buried the lead, I apologize) and finally decided to casually bring it up after dinner the other night. I just explained that a man had wanted to be friends with kids and was hanging out at a school playground and asked a girl to leave with him and she did. We talked about why that was not ok and that even if you're at a safe place it doesn't mean you can leave with anyone, even if you feel like you know them, without a trusted adult. (then we reviewed who those trusted adults are in his life) I told him the girl ended up getting hurt while she was away and was returned to her family. It is so sad to look into the eyes of a 5 year old who sees the good in everything and explain that some people choose to hurt children. Uggh. Too much too soon? Maybe. I sure hope not. I guess, as in so many other decisions, I just to have faith following my gut was the right thing to do.

The Latest & The Greatest (and not so)

2011-04-10T19:34:00.000-07:00

Time is flying right on by and summer will be here before we know it....I can HARDLY wait! This is a pic of the kids at Jason's board @ NWCN (he's a Lead Director there--pushing the buttons to help make the news happen is part of his gig) We picked up Burgermaster and brought it to him while he worked a long shift today. It was fun to watch the kids faces light up when they pushed buttons and saw the screens before them change. Here I think Isaac is teaching Elyse about the fader. Year 5 for the Iceman continues to be mostly fabulous....with bumps here and there. He is still obsessed with any sport on tv or any ball he can get his hands on. Last week though he woke up Sunday night at 10pm screaming, yelling "I want to play!" he was sitting at the edge of his loft bed and I tried to calm him down and it was as if he was looking through me. Creepy. Turns out they're night terrors and a surprising number of kids have them at 4 and 5...sometimes even younger. It really is strange. He is extremely upset for a few minutes but settles back in fairly quickly with some reassurance and snuggle time. He's had 1 almost every night for the last week...we're hoping they go away fast! Most parents I've talked to whose kiddos had them said they stuck around for 3-4 weeks....fingers crossed it is sooner than that for Isaac. He's been experimenting a bit with his "tone" - aka naughty voice...and we've had to be firm with that. Other than that he's doing really well. He got to spend a few days last week with his cousin Ian and both of them just ate that time up. They are two very different boys but two very loving boys who really learn a lot from each other. Whoever said "cousins are your first friends" not only was right...but we have our cousins...with all their different personalities for a reason. They really help shape what our little people learn about the world around them early on.

Elyse is stubborn, sweet and silly all wrapped into one. She still loves to snack...any fruit and vegetable in sight is especially vulnerable. Her favorites right now are blueberries, grapes and strawberries. She will pretty much do anything to get her hands on any of those. They've come in handy for all out bribery getting through shopping trips etc. We really have to watch how much she eats (juice too) because they'll upset her tummy fairly easily. She's really into anything outside...climbing ESPECIALLY. We are trying to show her ok places to climb and not ok places to climb (aka her brother's loft bed ladder) She loves singing before bedtime and making up songs with mommy which warms her mama's heart. It makes me really think about her on the 2 nights a week I am at work. I will look at the clock and think about her going to bed and miss her chubby little arms around my neck. Yes, these tender times are fleeting but I am also reminded of how many mommies and daddies spend weeks and months away from their babies. Fortunately Isaac's night terrors have not woken her up (knock on wood) probably because Jason and I are on edge waiting for him to wakeup. Whatever the reason we are immensely grateful they both sleep with a small fan in their rooms for white noise. I think the fans have saved us numerous times.

This weekend I managed to squeeze in some mama time with my dear friend Aimers. I've known Aimers since I was 13 and it was fun to catch up. Friday night we went out to Earl's in Bellevue..btw I highly recommend it...and it was lovely to have a delicious martini (viva diva, I think mine was called...I'd rename it bliss.), chat without interruptions and watch the people watching. Jason Mesnick (of Bachelor fame) and his wife were there and they had quite the entourage so it was really funny to watch people start to recognize them and see the people who um, had a few too many viva divas, approach them.

Jason is doing fantastic--working a lot and managing to continue to do a superhero job at taking care of his wife and 2 children. He loves every minute with Isaac and Elyse and they adore him. I think all 3 of them look forward to Mondays..when they know Mommy rolls off to work and they go home and watch baseball, pop popcorn, play catch and wrestle. (yes, Elyse gets in on all of it except the baseball watching...she's in and out of the playroom for that) And I love being at work (doing 1 task at a time!) knowing they are getting their daddy time.

Good Friday Laugh

2011-03-25T14:00:00.000-07:00

Haven't laughed this hard at a comedian in a while..
A little bit of a slow start but worth the wait!

Julia Sweeney's birds & the bees talk with her 8yo daughter:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ry-LwxR746s&feature=bf_play&playnext=1&list=QL&index=1

Props to my Peeps

2011-02-28T20:26:00.001-08:00

I am continually amazed by the good the people around me are doing! My former tv news colleague, Alyssa Reeve, from my very first station in Chico, California is changing lives in St. Louis. She is the latest in a long list of friends who have changed professions and directions entirely and are making this world SUCH a better place! She and her husband Dan help homeless boys succeed in school and in life.....all while raising their sweet son Carter (4) and daughter Claire (9 months) and running a family photography business!

Read on!

http://www.stltoday.com/suburban-journals/metro/education/article_16a1566a-b8bb-50da-ab80-e4998b161c6c.html

Fabulous 5

2011-02-22T22:30:00.001-08:00

***warning: mom's gushing post***

We are nearly 3 months into Isaac's 5th year and I can honestly say, thus far, if I could freeze a year of his life, I think this would be it. Jason and I find ourselves grinning ear to ear hearing the things that come out of this little man's mouth. He is more curious, funny, loving and compassionate than we ever could have dreamed.

Isaac at 5....

-loves any sport in person, on tv, in a newspaper--he sees a picture in the paper and he wants to know who was playing where and who won
-has a hard time sitting still but can stand in our yard and watch the big boy neighbors shoot hoops for 30 minutes straight
-has become a fanatic of Jake & the Neverland Pirates
-adores his sister, and shows her his love by kissing her a zillion times a day and occasionally knocking her over
-could play Wii basketball for hours on end if mom & dad let him
-is learning what it means to be "prideful" and how to be a good sport...this is a process!
-now more than ever cherishes his alone time with dad, playing legos, kicking the soccer ball around or learning checkers & chess
-wakes his mama up with snuggles and kisses every morning
-is getting very excited for kindergarten, mostly for the bus ride
-got creative with his class valentines this year...i found one written to "Wood" I asked him who "Wood" was and he said it was Samantha's last name. Her first name was too long. Poor Samantha.
-gets upset when we miss church, even when we're spending time on a Sunday morning with other people we adore. the boy loves church and I am pretty convinced it is because the people he is with at church love HIM.
-has kept his "helpful" spirit although I am aware that may slip away any day now...he is almost always up for helping with chores, giving us a hand around the house
-loves to dig and poke around the yard looking for creatures. he is so sweet with them and often "transplants" them to where he thinks they'll do better

Adventures w/Grandpa Jeffry

2011-02-13T19:22:00.001-08:00

3 Finley kids together...for the first time...in a LONG time. With the 4 grandkids in tow. At Uncle Curt's house in Wenatchee (he and Betsy left town the minute they heard we were coming to visit-ha actually they were lucky enough to be vacationing in Mexico!) Lots of squeals and yelps but all in all, everyone had a great time. Isaac (5) Bo (2) Elyse (1) Lilly (1)

A mother's "2nd child guilt"

2011-01-28T20:09:00.000-08:00

Let me first say I am absolutely humbled and grateful that Elyse came into our lives. Losing two pregnancies between Isaac and Elyse was incredibly difficult and both experiences taught us a lot. In the last 3-6 months I have started to feel this strange guilt about all the things Elyse hasn't done that I felt like we did with Isaac. That we were almost cheating her out of firsts and one on one time, Gymboree classes, toddler classes, playdates with kids her age...you name it. I don't know exactly when the guilt started to creep in but about a month ago it became really stifling for me. Even though it would be a stretch for us financially, I looked into a once a week music class that would be for 1 and a half year olds to three year olds. Perfect, I thought. Elyse is used to being around older kids and she loves, loves, loves music. We went and it boy was I surprised! It was too much. For her age. For her senses. For me. It is only about 40-45 min long and jam packed with different musical activities. The minute they started to move onto something new, Elyse was just starting to get "into" the activity or instrument. Watching the staff put the toys away and change the music...she just looked confused. And the kids running and bopping about (which I thought she'd be totally comfortable with since Isaac IS her older bro) just seemed to overwhelm her. The other piece I felt was missing was the "free play." After thinking about it I realized what I really was looking for was recreating Isaac's experience in the BCC toddler classes. We made so many precious memories there...So on a whim I looked up the schedule crossing my fingers something would work. With me working 2 days a week and Isaac in preschool 3 days a week I thought the odds would be slim. Wa-lah! It worked out! Elyse and I just joined a class in Bellevue - about 10 min from his preschool - on a morning he's at school so its a cinch dropping him off and getting to Bvue. We are a few minutes late but still get to enjoy the bulk of the class. It has free play, all with kids 6-8 mos within her age, group time for music and dancing, a snack (her fave--you ought to see her beeline down the hallway elbowing past other toddlers--HILARIOUS) and more free play. They do such a great job with the variety of toys & tasks..such different activities and fun things for the kids to do. I immediately felt at home and at ease. Finally something that is for HER that she gets to take the lead on. I love following her from activity to activity watching her discover new things and start to notice kids her age! I really can't say enough good things about the program. I am just so incredibly grateful we live in a community that values programs like these!

The Good Stuff

2011-01-28T20:00:00.000-08:00

Last week Isaac and I wrote two "books" together. He drew the pictures on each page, and then told me what to write on each page above his illustrations. Afterward we gave them a title and stapled them together to make the book. His first two books are "Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and the Monster and the Lost Pet" and "The Monster and the Boy." Yes, we did write the 1st one last Monday, on the actual holiday. :) We watched a Nat'l Geographic Kids video on MLK Jr. and talked about all he accomplished for our country. Afterward, Isaac had this ponderous look, got quiet and then said, "There's no way 1 person could do all of that." I told him, yes, with the help of a lot of other brave and courageous people, they rallied behind him to make our country better.

CHRISTmas

2010-12-23T20:32:00.000-08:00

I feel at 32 years old, I am finally really "getting" the reason behind the season. I thought these kids did an incredible job sharing the Christmas story.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kWq60oyrHVQ

Merry Christmas!

Scary

2010-12-07T21:13:00.001-08:00

My family was recently reminded of what it feels like to be truly scared. My 35yo brother Adam has always been the rough and tumble kind of big bro...always up for a football game or a wrestle on the floor. A few weeks ago he thought he tore a muscle in his back from moving the weekend before (into his in-laws house while he and his lovely wife Geneva looked for a bigger home). When the pain became too much he showed up at the ER. The doc gave him muscle relaxer and pain meds and sent him home. He took both and used a heating pad on his back to relieve the pain. He fell asleep and woke up with 2nd degree burns on his back. Back to the ER he went, where doctors examined the blisters and did some bloodwork. When some of it came back a bit abnormal, they did a scan and discovered Adam's entire back was infected. Infected from what? That was our initial thought. At this point, I wasn't at the hospital with Geneva and the family..but on the phone..waiting and wanting to know what's going on with my big strong bro.

That's when a surgeon came in and said she needed to move Adam to ICU and either operate on his back that night or in the morning. She believed the entire right side of his back, from his waistline to his neckline, was full of pockets of infection. She worried that they were putting pressure on his spinal cord. If they ruptured -- he could be paralyzed or die. If they did the operation -- he could be paralyzed or die. But they felt their odds were better at going in and actually draining the infection. I spoke with my sobbing mother and sobbing brother Aaron and hung up the phone speechless. I put in a last call to my step dad who said, "you should come." At 10pm I booked the first flight the next morning to Spokane, and Elyse and I arrived by 8:15am. Our dear friends Scott and Shelby arranged to get us to the airport (Jason had to work early and he had to get Isaac to his parents so they could watch him) In the snow, in their Subaru, Scott got Elyse and I to the airport at 5am that Monday. My wonderful friend Aimers picked us up (in the middle of one of Spokane's first snowstorms of the season) at the airport and got us to the hospital. I felt so relieved just walking into the hospital knowing I was about to see my mom and other family members. I got the chance to suit up gloves, gown etc to go in and see Adam just before surgery. He could hardly lift his head to see me. I hadn't seen him before that morning so I didn't know what to expect. Was it the pain meds? Was it the infection raging inside him? All I can say, is it was scary to see someone who normally would be able to lift a car off of you -- lying flat on his back, physically as weak as I have ever seen him, but strong in spirit. His attitude, and words in fact where, "let's get on with this." It was strange to tell him I loved him and that he'd do great...and not be able to hug or kiss him. 5 agonizing hours of pacing through the hospital and talking with family members followed...when finally his surgeon came out. She had been able to drain the infection without affecting his spinal cord! We were relieved to say the least. Within 24 hours we learned that a spot on his arm had been tested positive for MRSA. His surgeon believed that's where the infection got into his bloodstream and infected the muscles on the right side of his back. He was what is known as "septic" - thankfully after surgery he did not go into what's considered "septic shock:"

"Septic shock is a serious medical condition caused by decreased tissue perfusion and oxygen delivery as a result of infection and sepsis, though the microbe may be systemic or localized to a particular site.[1] It can cause multiple organ dysfunction syndrome (formerly known as multiple organ failure) and death.[1] Its most common victims are children, immunocompromised individuals, and the elderly, as their immune systems cannot deal with the infection as effectively as those of healthy adults. The mortality rate from septic shock is approximately 50%. "

His body responded well to the antibiotics (that the ER doc put him on right away--much credit to her for suspecting MRSA or something related) and he went from the ICU to a regular hospital room (although still somewhat quarantined) in 2 days. He's home now, on a pic IV getting antibiotics 3x a day until mid-January. He and his doctors suspect he contracted MRSA from working in hospitals in his job.

I have never had a family member in the hospital, so sick and so fragile. It was incredible to see my family come together..my dad Dave, my mom, my brothers, my sisters (in laws too!) and my dad Jeff to support Adam. We prayed together and sat together as we waited word, never losing faith but plagued with worry of what could happen. I'm once again finding myself so incredibly grateful for the power of prayer and the talents of people in the medical profession.

And mom was "beet red"

2010-11-12T21:03:00.000-08:00

Lovely performance at the senior center today by Isaac's preschool. Their sweet voices and adorable little faces lit up the seniors faces and hopefully lifted their spirits at lunchtime. But something had me red-faced, giggling in the back of all of the parents...my sweet Isaac. Front row. Center. With his left hand down his pants for nearly ALL of the performance. Let's just say I was relieved when they did the songs with hand gestures so he would allow his left hand to participate :) Oh little boys.

Missing Link

2010-10-16T19:05:00.000-07:00

As promised...http://www.thegoodnewsrevolution.com/
Check it out! It is refreshing!

Jaded & Bitter

2010-10-04T21:11:00.000-07:00

is how a lot of people in the news business describe themselves and/or people who've worked in television news for a number of years. Enough car accident scenes, soldier memorials with caskets draped in flags, police officer memorials, covering child-molestation cases, door-knocking on the homes of people who have just lost a child, in some cases at the accidental hands of a parent or family member...the list goes on. Watch the first ten minutes of your favorite news station and you get the idea. There's a lot of pain. A lot of grief in the world.

But as many of you know and seek out...there's plenty of GOOD NEWS to be shared. Jason and I are thrilled to be partnering with our church I-90 Community Church in starting a "Good News Revolution" webpage. Once it is up and running I will post it here. We are kicking off the series with services focused on "good news" happening right here in the Pacific Northwest. Yesterday we celebrated the selflessness of Mallory Holtman, the CWU softball player who won an ESPY for her self-sacrifice on the softball diamond in 2008. Next week we talk to a family brought together by fate, giving children an incredible opportunity to live & grow in God's love.

If you hear of a good news story and want to share it, email me at amybruce3@hotmail.com. Oh, and if you are looking for a low-key, fun place to go to church on Sundays...I-90 CC meets at Kidzbounce at 10am. (kids on one side, adults on the other) Great group of people--from all faiths--there to ask questions, debate and learn together.

The 11 Rules

2010-09-07T18:09:00.000-07:00

This was a fun read..thanks to Megan Temple for passing it along! Thought I'd share too!

Bill Gates speech: 11 rules your kids did not and will not learn in school
by Kent Summers

Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!

Rule 2: The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.

Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.

Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.

Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.

Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.

Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.

Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.

Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.

Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.

Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.

Four Stars!

2010-08-26T20:54:00.000-07:00

Four stars for the Skyhawks program! Isaac had an absolute blast in the Mini-Hawk camp for 4-6 yr olds. He went from 9-Noon M-F last week. I think what I like best about Skyhawks are the coaches---college students who must have a 3.0 and meet high standards to work as role models. He says he liked soccer & basketball best. I also like that he learned some great basics, dribbling, shooting on the goalie etc. He was really bummed when I explained it was a 1 week camp. He kept asking to go back. It is too bad they don't have a year-round program but obviously with their coaches in college...that would be nearly impossible! Here are some pics from his last day.

Perspective

2010-07-16T07:33:00.001-07:00

Last Friday we had a fun filled day...a picnic, lots of time playing in the water, Isaac's favorite lunch and a trip to the library. At dinner I asked him what the favorite part of his day was. His response was a little surprising...and very sweet. "When my dad came home." Reminds us no matter what we buy or go out and do with our kids...what's most important is that we're HERE. He adores his dad and I love that seeing him walk through the door is the favorite part of his day.

An "off morning" turned around!

2010-07-13T11:25:00.000-07:00

-dirty, smelly 4 yr old socks discovered in the snack bag (yuck!)
-1 yr old drifting to sleep in the car just before her morning nap
-left fave coffee mug @ swim lesson
-watched as 4 yr old chose to disobey the swim teacher over and over (I wanted to yank him out of the pool but left it to the teacher to handle---my teacher friends have taught me well--he apologized to her afterward and promised he'd be a better listener tomorrow)
-1 yr old waking up an hour earlier than usual on a night with only a few hours of sleep for me
-forgot I volunteered to bring brownies to work bbq tonight....no brownie mix to be found. need to rummage the pantry for cookie ingredients and whip something up

Ahhh its only 11:30am! Everyday has its challenges as a mama but this morning I was feeling a bit grumpy....then I went through drive thru Starbucks and met my friend Shelby at the park. The kids played and we walked through the park....and BOY do I feel a lot better! Some fresh air and good conversation are truly good for a mama's heart. We are so blessed to conquer these challenges day in and day out. The rewards are infinite!

I love Pandora!

2010-07-12T21:59:00.000-07:00

I listen to it a ton at work...puts me at ease and lets me listen to my crazy different music taste. From Kenny Chesney to Pearl Jam to Mary Chapin Carpenter to Everclear...it is perfect for my all over the place music.

This song just about put me to tears tonight...sorry to be a downer....but wow. The combination of these moving lyrics and the angelic voice of Alison Krauss is amazing. What a gift she has!

The wind is blowing down the quiet river,a shining road that carries you alone.
Baby boy my love will last forever.
If you're to live, I must give you up to God.
I know our God will guide, protect and keep you.
Teach you faith and hold you by the heart.
Though your mother's heart is broken by your leaving,her
Father knows just who he is and who you are.
I wish that life wasn't always ending up this way,with Heaven's love at stake and hell to pay.But you in God's loving plan might be the missing part.
You must live. So I give you to his heart.
The wind is blowing down the silent river,a shining road that leaves me all alone.
A life for you's worth losing you forever.
Some day we'll stand in God's fair land, forever home.
I wish that life wasn't always ending up this way,with Heaven's love at stake and hell to pay.But you in God's loving plan might be the missing part. You must live.
So I give you to his heart.
I wish that life wasn't always ending up this way,with Heaven's love at stake and hell to pay.
But you in God's loving plan might be the missing part. You must live. So I give you to his heart.

In honor of incredible daddies

2010-06-17T18:56:00.000-07:00

I loved this from one of my favorite mama bloggers, mom4life.com:

Here are some practical ways that I believe we as mothers can help bless our spouses and honor them as men:

-Whenever possible, build up your spouse and complement them in front of others (both in front of them and "behind their back"). A practical way that I do this in our home is when I pray with my children at night. In my prayers I make a point to thank God for Trent and for the wonderful father, husband and supporter that he is for our family.
-Stand as one in all decisions concerning your children. In our home, if Trent gives the kids an answer to a question and they approach me for my answer, I always reply that "dad's answer and my answer are the same." Trent does the same when this situation is reversed.
-If you disagree with something your spouse does while parenting, bring it up with him in private so as not to undermine his authority in from of your children.
-Help your children learn to appreciate your husband by pointing out things that he does for your family. Simple statements like, "Oh look how nice the grass looks today, wasn't that nice of daddy to mow it for us?" or "Wow, the car has a full gas tank, daddy must have knew we would appreciate not having to stop at the gas station today, lets try to remember to thank him for that." will go a long way in helping your children learn to notice all the little things their dad does for the family.

-Give him a place of honor. Perhaps this means something as simple as giving him the seat at the head of the table, serving him dinner (or dessert) first. Other times, this might mean including him in decisions or talks you are having with your kids by saying "lets find out what daddy things about this, he always has something wise to add to our discussions."

These are just a few of the many ways I am sure we can seek to actively bless the fathers of our children.

One thing I've learned....

2010-05-30T14:06:00.000-07:00

In this adventure called parenting, one thing I have learned when it comes to a picky eater, is DON'T GIVE UP! I love a good breakfast and this morning I woke up craving scrambled eggs. So, Isaac in his cooking enthusiasm, offered to crack the eggs for me -- he did a great job. When they were done I gave him his regular tablespoon size portion of eggs and heap of toast. (my carb boy) The reason for the tablespoon size portion is the few times he's tried eggs, he's gagged on them. I want them to be on his plate as an option but I usually don't get overly optimistic....as many of you know, for a long time he didn't want to have anything to do with meat. (see earlier post..in the last 6 mos he has become a shredded beef eating fool!) But I am determined for him to continue trying things in his own time...so this morning he ate a FULL PORTION of eggs! Hooray! I had bits of ham & shredded cheddar on top like I usually do and that seemed to seal the deal for him. I'm really glad b/c in the past if we venture outside of the usual oatmeal or cereal arena...breakfast almost ALWAYS involves syrup. I love syrup, but I also love eggs, plus they're good for you.

So, my advice to mamas is to keep dishing up the stuff they don't seem to love (plus stuff they do of course) and one day they may just come around. Isaac scarfed it down and even made an egg boat (loading up his toast with eggs on top) today.

It just reminds me that there are a few things in parenting that we feel like we know....instinctively....keep giving them options...keep dishin up the good stuff and one day they may reach for that and surprise you. It reminds me not to waver with the stuff I feel like I really know, that comes naturally to me. (b/c there's plenty of stuff in this parenting maze we question, right?)

Heaven for little boys

2010-05-17T22:47:00.000-07:00

I knew he would like it, but I didn't know he'd love it with every fiber of his being. I took Isaac on his first camping trip this past weekend for a bit of a Finley family reunion. We had a great time. We arrived @ Ft. Ebey after our short ferry ride at about 3:30pm Friday. We met up with Grandpa Jeffry and Air Bear and played at the campsite for a bit, explored the gorgeous bluffs surrounding Ft. Ebey and started a campfire. Gathering twigs for the campfire and getting it started was the thrill of the night for the Ice Man. Smores were the topper of the night. He liked getting to see (and a few he met for the first time!) his cousins as well. Uncle Curt took him on his electric scooter around the campground. His expression was similar to the one in the above pic. THRILLED. Like, "I didn't know THIS was part of the deal!" I didn't either! Didn't even know Uncle Curt owned the scooters!

Saturday it was fun rolling over to my little guy's big smile in grandpa's camper. We snuggled and talked about what fun Friday was and soon grandpa was in to greet us (he slept in a tent - gave up his camper for us---such a sweetie) for his cup of tea. It was so fun. Later in the morning we explored the beach where we found the coolest driftwood to climb and Isaac soon moved on from the driftwood to scaling BLUFFS along the beach. He was so confident and quick it was tough to say no. So I let him. And he loved it. I was relieved there were no drives to the ER. Then we met up with some friends of the family to search for crabs and other sea creatures taking refuge along the beach rocks. After a few hours at the beach we headed back to the campsire for some chill time. Isaac read books and relaxed in the camper while I got comfy with a book in the sun and read. After rest and lunch, we played a bit more and then got ready to go home. The camping trip went so fast. I can't wait to go again. Next time I look forward to having Jas and Elyse join us (we decided a teething 10mo old up @ night might not be the best idea in a crowded campground so Jas stayed home with her and got caught up on editing projects). Now I have just got to find out how we can rent a tent trailer for a weekend. I don't think I'll be getting Jas into a tent anytime soon (no complaints though! having a clean place to cook and a dry place to sleep with kids is a MUST!)

Thank you T-Rex

2010-04-22T19:15:00.001-07:00

Thank you Mr. T-Rex if you in any way, in your meat-eating ways convinced my son to eat meat. Just about the time Isaac started going full-boar into his dinosaur obsessed world, he started taking more of an interest in his mom's shredded beef and chicken. He's been a nibbler in the past, but now he's actually eating forkfuls. I really wouldn't have minded much if he'd chosen to be vegetarian but last time he was at the doc his iron was on the low end. Just want the kid to be healthy.

The Ice man is doing well these days. He is loving preschool, we hate to see it end @ the end of May. Total bummer. Taking the summer off from swim lessons and wishing there was something he could do on a more consistent basis--most activities this summer last 1 or 2 weeks. Then again, we are probably one of only a handful of families I know mostly staying around the PacNW this summer. He'll be taking soccer from our wonderful sitter Jordyn but other than that we'll be @ the beach or park.

Elyse is growing up so incredibly fast I can hardly believe it. She went from scooting to crawling to pulling herself up in the blink of an eye. Loves her daddy, adores her brother. At 9 mos I decided to do the 2kiddo bath and boy.....I shoulda started that a lot earlier! I was warning Isaac to take it easy while I was putting her in the bath next to him and she got in there, looked around and started splashing water so hard with BOTH HANDS it was nearly going out of the tub. Grins all around. She must have been thinking, "mom it is about time!!! I have been waiting soooo long for this!" It is really fun to watch the kids have fun in the bath together. Such a joy.

Jason is awesome as usual. He is working hard and doing freelance work. The freelance work really brings him joy outside of the day to day. He is also doing projects for church, yes he is a saint and I am INCREDIBLY blessed. This is on top of his quality one on one time with the kiddos 2-3 nights a week when I am working. Love, love, love the man.

Life is good. Very good.

Let go of the G-U-I-L-T

2010-03-16T17:44:00.000-07:00

Thank you to my wise friend Karen for passing this on:

31 reasons you shouldn't feel mom guilt
By Stephanie Dolgoff, Parenting.com

1 Taking a vacation with only your husband. It's such a tragedy for the kids to spend time with their superindulgent grandparents! Besides, they'll benefit from you two not giving each other the stink eye during dinner.

2 Feeling smug that you're a better parent than those on "Supernanny". No worries. We all feel smug watching "Supernanny". Until we don't, at which time we employ her techniques.

3 Not signing up to be class parent. Think of it this way: Your ability to say no to volunteer tasks you can't handle will leave you better able to concentrate on what only you can do, like getting your kids fed, dressed, and onto the bus. Some days, that's huge!

4 Yelling at your son when he actually didn't do anything wrong. Sure, not a great move, but it's a good opportunity to show him that even you screw up sometimes, and that saying sorry really does help make it better.

5 Enjoying your work. You can love your kids and still have that "Thank God It's Monday" feeling, well, every Monday. Especially after a long and dreary winter weekend.

6 Buying your daughter the generic UGGs. She'll live without the label, even if she thinks she will not, and her tootsies will be just as toasty.

7 Buying yourself the real ones. You treat your shoes better than your kid does, and you won't outgrow them. Plus, they're really cute. Being the wage earner has its perks.

8 Giving him the answer to the last problem on his math homework. He'll get more practice with the teacher in school.

9 Dipping into your son's goody bag when he isn't looking. What's a funsize Snickers between family members?

10 Not going in the pool with them. Chlorine does a real number on your hair, and besides, that's what dads are for.

11 Accepting your son's compliment that you're a good cook when he's eating pre-breaded microwave chicken breasts. You did your part. You pressed "Start."

12 Wiping your daughter's nose with a panty liner -- the closest thing to a tissue you had in your purse. For heaven's sake -- it was clean!

13 Stashing the Häagen-Dazs in the back of the freezer, and showcasing the supermarket brand. If they're not ready to dig, they're not ready to appreciate the premium stuff.

14 Closing the bedroom door in their little faces. You did not magically lose your need for privacy when you gave birth. If someone's bleeding or not breathing, by all means, they can knock.

15 Giving in once in a while. It can be a wise parental trade-off, especially if what you're acceding to will buy you a few minutes of quiet time, private time, or time to regroup. You don't need to be perfectly consistent.

16 Making your daughter get down from the top of the monkey bars, simply because it makes you nervous. Yes, she's done it a million times safely, and she'll likely do it again, but who says you have to watch? Your comfort level counts, too!

17 Making the grandparents take them to "Disney on Ice." It's torture for you, but for them, it's a future memory they'll cherish forever. What's the problem?

18 Tossing their artwork. After you've saved the truly superior thumb pots and the especially sentimental glitter collages, you will still have a heap of crafts the size of Mount Etna. Fill up a big black Hefty bag after they're asleep, pour yourself some wine, and then watch Hoarders. You'll feel better instantly.

19 Being psyched that the best friend you never liked has moved to another state. You're not happy your daughter is upset, of course, and you'll help her through it. But being secretly pleased that you won't ever have to host Little Miss Caitlin-Who-Gets-to-Wear-Belly-Shirts for a sleepover again doesn't make you a bad person.

20 Neglecting to videotape his role as "third planet from the sun" in the school solar-system pageant. There will be other, more important achievements, and you can bet your son won't notice.

21 Letting it slip that the tooth fairy was actually her daddy. You didn't destroy her childhood innocence. You let her in on a grown-up secret that she must never, ever tell her little brother, which makes her feel mature and important.

22 Knowing you could go months without sex, without even missing it. Guilt about not feeling frisky makes you even less so. So your libido isn't what it used to be when you had no children to wear you out by 9 p.m. If you can remain open to the idea of sex, and get into it when you can, that's fine until things change. Which they probably will as your children get older.

23 Only pretending to be sad that your child's birthday falls in mid-August. No gigantic birthday parties, full of political decisions as to whom to invite.

24 Reading this article instead of soliciting donations for the PTA auction, cultivating your organic vegetable garden, or cleaning out that kitchen drawer with the random rubber bands, screwdrivers, and old keys in it. Even machines need to unplug and reboot every so often.

25 Sitting and reading. You do not need to be on the treadmill in your first free 20 minutes in three days. You'll exercise at the next break in the action when you can.

26 Looking forward to guys' weekend even more than your husband. A little time apart is never a bad thing.

27 Not letting her pierce her ears until the age at which you were allowed to. Just because.

28 Finding aspects of motherhood incredibly tedious. If you didn't find watching your child go down the slide for the 100th time that day ("Mom, look at meeee!") or nagging him to put his socks in the hamper a bit of a snooze, you'd be too easily amused, and hence a moron.

29 Noticing the hot dad at drop-off. Ahem, you have eyes in your head, and (sex drive or no) you're not dead yet! Did you lick him? No? You're okay.

30 Still being really PO'd about the stretch marks.

31 Forgetting to lay out her best outfit for school photo days. Years from now, you'll appreciate seeing her as the adorable, rough-and-tumble tomboy she really was -- instead of some dolled-up version of herself.

What's your secret?

2010-03-10T20:11:00.000-08:00

I am giving huge props to moms who work full time outside the home. I have been working 3 nights a week for the last 6 weeks...and I am soooo looking forward to going back to 2 nights a week next week. It has been surprising to me how much 1 more night can throw off the week. Yet there are millions of mommies out there who do 40+ hours a week, week in and week out. What is your secret?

And now...because I have been humming it all week..are the lyrics to my favorite Peggy Lee song....put her album on your ipod and watch how fast your house chores go....

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I can wash out 44 pairs of socks and have 'em hangin out on the line I can starch & iron 2 dozens shirts 'fore you can count from 1 to 9

I can scoop up a great big dipper full of lard from the drippins can Throw it in the skillet, go out & do my shopping, be back before it melts in the pan'Cause I'm a woman! W-O-M-A-N, I'll say it again

I can rub & scrub this old house til it's shinin like a dime Feed the baby, grease the car, & powder my face at the same time Get all dressed up, go out and swing til 4 a.m. and then Lay down at 5, jump up at 6, and start all over again 'Cause I'm a woman! W-O-M-A-N, I'll say it again

If you come to me sickly you know I'm gonna make you wellIf you come to me all hexed up you know I'm gonna break the spell If you come to me hungry you know I'm gonna fill you full of gritsIf it's lovin you're likin, I'll kiss you and give you the shiverin' fits'Cause I'm a woman! W-O-M-A-N,

I'll say it again I can stretch! a green black dollar bill from here to kindom come!I can play the numbers pay the bills and still end up with some! I got a twenty-dollar gold piece says there ain't nothing I can't do I can make a dress out of a feed bag and I can make a man out of you'Cause I'm a woman! W-O-M-A-N, I'll say it again 'Cause I'm a woman! W-O-M-A-N, and that's all.

No Helmet, No Wheels

2010-03-10T19:13:00.000-08:00

This press release came across my desk tonight. Sobering reminder for this time of year, when it is getting warmer and the sun is up longer:

March 10, 2010
CONTACT: Kristen Thorstenson, Public Education Specialist/Public Information Officer, (360) 363-8507 or (425) 754-4364, kthorstenson@marysvillewa.gov

GIRL AIRLIFTED AFTER BEING STRUCK BY VEHICLE

MARYSVILLE, WA – At approximately 4:35pm March 10, Marysville Fire District crews responded to a motor vehicle vs. child on a bicycle call in the 7900 block of 80th Avenue NE. The 10 year old girl was airlifted to Harborview with serious injuries.

Always remember to wear a properly fitted helmet while riding bikes, scooters, skateboards and roller blades. A great rule of thumb is “no helmet, no wheels”.

Marysville Fire District and Safe Kids Snohomish County have low cost helmets available at many sites. For more information, visit www.marysvillefiredistrict.org or www.snosafekids.org.

A close friend of mine lost a sibling this way in her family's quiet cul-de-sac. I realize we can't protect our kids from everything---risk is everywhere---but helmets are one way we can protect them from severe head injuries.

Mmm GOOD!

2010-02-21T19:07:00.000-08:00

Tried this last week and it was phenomenal. I'm always up for a new yummy recipe so I thought I'd pass it on:

Tomato & Basil Chicken

1 Tablespoon butter
4 skinned and boned chicken breasts halves
1 yellow onion
1 Tablespoon butter or margarine melted
1 (16 ounce) can whole tomatoes, coarsely chopped diced and peeled OR 2 cans diced tomatoes
½ cup heavy whipping cream
½ cup shredded fresh basil
1 teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon ground pepper

Melt butter in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add chicken; cook 3 to 4 minutes on each side or until browned. (If you are using a whole chicken breast it is longer) Remove from skillet.

Cook the chopped onion in melted butter in skillet over medium heat 5 minutes or until onion is tender. Increase heat to high and add chopped tomatoes. Cook until liquid is almost absorbed. Add whipping cream and cook until slightly thickened. Remove sauce from heat; add basil, salt, and pepper.

Place chicken in a 11x7 inch baking dish; pour sauce over chicken.

Bake uncovered at 450 degrees for 30 minutes or until done.

Great with either angel hair pasta or rice.

I love this kid with every fiber of my being!!!

2010-02-08T23:40:00.001-08:00

Worksheet from preschool about his Five Senses...

My mouth likes to taste.....APPLES!

My hands like to touch...EVERYTHING!

My nose likes to smell...COOKIES!

My ears like to hear...SINGING!

My eyes like to see...GARAGES!

A little comparison

2010-02-08T10:00:00.001-08:00

Isaac at just under 7 mos. old

7 months.....REALLY?

2010-02-08T09:14:00.001-08:00

It feels like last week I was telling people I was 7 months pregnant! Elyse Kate is officially 7 months old today. Unreal.

Life @ 7 mos:
-battling first nasty cold
-i have "cut" my first tooth...working on my second (and boy do my parents know it!)
-teething...not going quite as smoothly as it was on big bro...up at least once at night for the last week. the record was 4 times in one night. my parents thought i was 3 weeks old again..
-love watching Isaac build trains
-big, wide open mouthed kisses on whatever part of your face you turn toward me
-likes to use her tummy as a drum and make adorable noises....we think she learned this from "Paw" who would pat her tummy to help her go to sleep...she does it when she's tired
-LOVES her sweet potatoes and bananas
-if there is a child within an arms length ANYWHERE I'm fixated and giggling at whatever they are doing
-i like car rides, i dig cat naps in the car
-still love my Ergo carrier, fun to snuggle up to mom or dad and nap there too

The Whistle

2010-01-29T14:38:00.000-08:00

Some days I can't believe the conversations I am having. During Isaac's "rest time" in the afternoons he plays on the floor of his room and once in a blue moon, takes a nap. Today he was singing, playing and making his usual play time sounds. Then came the distinct "toot toot." Isaac's train whistle loud and clear. I walked to his room and asked him to quiet his whistle a bit b/c his sister was napping in her bedroom next door. Like the attorney he is, he launches into a defense about his whistle and how it has to be loud for the other engines to hear him. After a while I shrug and ask him to do his best. The whistle commences and I go about attempting to nap and do a few chores. He gets up and I tell him I'm disappointed b/c his whistle kept me up and woke up his sister. His response? "Well, try again tonight mom. I may just have to go out and buy a quieter whistle." Oh, ok, is that all it takes? I can't believe how train crazy this kid is. Soooooo funny. Makes me wonder what his sister will be crazy over? Right now she's pretty much enamored with him.

Best idea EVER for early risers!

2010-01-23T19:50:00.001-08:00

Love, love, love this product idea. We may be investing in one someday for Elyse. For now, Isaac uses a large digital alarm clock that has an alarm set for 7am...he is usually awake between 6-6:30am..so he knows if the alarm hasn't gone off he can sit on his floor and play quietly. When it goes off he knows its ok to softly knock on our bedroom door.

It is no surprise this "Good Nite Lite" was invented by a dad!
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The Good Nite Lite

Product Description

The objective of the "Good Nite Lite" is to educate children to stay in bed until it is morning. Children between the ages of 3 and 5 years of age are just starting to grasp the concept of day and night and how it relates to regularly scheduled rest. The Good Nite Lite can assist children with better differentiating the concept of nighttime and daytime and reinforce the benefits of appropriate sleep patterns. The Good Nite Lite device itself is an innovative combination of a traditional night light and a built in timer that changes the visual display characteristics to reinforce a regular sleep pattern.

Measures 6" in diameter

Purpose

Having a bright light, even a regular nightlight, on in a child's room inhibits teaching them that when it is dark, it is time for sleep and when it is light, its time to get up. The objective is to educate children to associate light with the daytime activities, and darkness with nighttime and rest. Ideally, the night light would be on a timer such that the light will be bright while they first go to sleep, and automatically dim after a set time. The Good Nite Lite implements exactly this approach and, in addition, provides additional reinforcement that its time to rest by displaying an easily recognized "Moon" caricature. Children rapidly come to associate the dim unobtrusive moon image with the knowledge that it is still bedtime and they should go back to sleep. At the time you choose in the morning, the Good Nite Lite will brighten and display a cheerful "Sun" caricature letting the child know that is time to wake up and permissible to get out of bed and start the days activities. During the day, the Good Nite Lite automatically shuts itself off to eliminate any distractions and to conserve energy.

Two Baby Product Recalls

2010-01-20T06:22:00.000-08:00

Yikes! Two baby related recalls this week---I am pretty sure we own the stroller involved.
Beautiful cribs recalled too. Check it out:

NEWS from CPSC

U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

Office of Information and Public Affairs

Washington, DC 20207

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
January 20, 2010
Release # 10-115

Firm's Recall Hotline: (800) 345-4109
CPSC Recall Hotline: (800) 638-2772
CPSC Media Contact: (301) 504-7908

Graco Recalls Strollers Due to Fingertip Amputation and Laceration Hazards

WASHINGTON, D.C. - The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, in cooperation with the firm named below, today announced a voluntary recall of the following products. Consumers should stop using recalled products immediately unless otherwise instructed.

Name of Product: Graco’s Passage™, Alano™ and Spree™ Strollers and Travel Systems

Units: About 1.5 million

Manufacturer: Graco Children’s Products Inc., of Atlanta, Ga.

Hazard: The hinges on the stroller’s canopy pose a fingertip amputation and laceration hazard to the child when the consumer is opening or closing the canopy.

Incidents/Injuries: Graco has received seven reports of children placing their fingers in the stroller’s canopy hinge mechanism while the canopy was being opened or closed, resulting in five fingertip amputations and two fingertip lacerations.

Description: This recall involves Graco Passage™, Alano™ and Spree™ Strollers and Travel Systems with the following model numbers and specific hinge mechanisms:

Model Numbers
6303MYC, 6303MYC3	7240DNB, 7240DNB2 7240MKL2, 7240MKL3	7F02GLM3
6320IVY, 6320LAU	7241DDH2, 7241DHO3	7F04TAY3
6330CAP, 6330THR, 6330THR3	7255CLP, 7255CLP2, 7255CRA2, 7255CRA3, 7255CSA3, 7255GPK3, 7255GRN, 7255GRN2, 7255JJB3, 7255ORC2, 7255WLO2, 7255WLO3	7F07EMA3
6F00QIN3, 6F00RRY3	7256CLO2, 7256SPM2, 7256SPM3	7F08DSW3, 7F08LAN3
6F03GLN3	7260BAN, 7260BAN2, 7260BAN3, 7260MRA2, 7260MRA3, 7260PKR, 7260PKR2	7G00DLS3, 7G00DLS4
6G10CSE3	7270BIA, 7270BIA2	7G01CRL3
7235GGA, 7235GGA2	7E01JON2, 7E01JON3	7G04KRA3
7236CDR2	7F00LPE3, 7F00RSH3	7G05GPR3, 7G06WSR3
7237HOL2, 7237HOL3	7F01FOR3	7G07ABB3, 7G07BAT3

Graco manufactured two different styles of hinge mechanisms for these stroller models. Only strollers or travel systems with a plastic, jointed hinge mechanism that has indented canopy positioning notches (see photo below) are included in this recall. The recalled strollers were manufactured between October 2004 and February 2008. The model number and manufacture date are located on the lower inside portion of the rear frame, just above the rear wheels.

Sold at: AAFES, Burlington Coat Factory, Babies “R” Us, Toys “R” Us, Kmart, Fred Meyer, Meijers, Navy Exchange, Sears, Target, Walmart and other retailers nationwide from October 2004 and December 2009 for between $80 and $90 for the strollers and between $150 and $200 for the travel systems.

Manufactured in: China

Remedy: Consumers should immediately stop using the recalled strollers and contact Graco to receive a free protective cover repair kit.

Consumer Contact: For additional information, contact Graco at (800) 345-4109 between 8 a.m. and 5 p.m. ET Monday through Friday, or visit the firm’s Web site at www.gracobaby.com

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CPSC is still interested in receiving incident or injury reports that are either directly related to this product recall or involve a different hazard with the same product. Please tell us about it by visiting https://www.cpsc.gov/cgibin/incident.aspx

The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission is charged with protecting the public from unreasonable risks of serious injury or death from thousands of types of consumer products under the agency's jurisdiction. The CPSC is committed to protecting consumers and families from products that pose a fire, electrical, chemical, or mechanical hazard. The CPSC's work to ensure the safety of consumer products - such as toys, cribs, power tools, cigarette lighters, and household chemicals - contributed significantly to the decline in the rate of deaths and injuries associated with consumer products over the past 30 years.

To report a dangerous product or a product-related injury, call CPSC's Hotline at (800) 638-2772 or CPSC's teletypewriter at (301) 595-7054. To join a CPSC e-mail subscription list, please go to https://www.cpsc.gov/cpsclist.aspx. Consumers can obtain recall and general safety information by logging on to CPSC's Web site at www.cpsc.gov.

NEWS from CPSC

U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

Office of Information and Public Affairs

Washington, DC 20207

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
January 19, 2010
Release # 10-114

Firm's Recall Hotline: (866) 762-2304
CPSC Recall Hotline: (800) 638-2772
CPSC Media Contact: (301) 504-7908

Dorel Asia Recalls To Replace Cribs; Pose Strangulation and Suffocation Hazards
One infant death reported, 10 injuries to infants

WASHINGTON, D.C. - The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, in cooperation with Dorel Asia SRL, of Barbados, is announcing a voluntary recall to replace drop side and non-drop side cribs that pose suffocation and strangulation hazards to infants and toddlers. Consumers should immediately stop using the recalled cribs until replacement kits are obtained and installed.

Name of Product: Dorel Asia cribs

Units: About 635,000

Distributor: Dorel Asia SRL, of Barbados

Hazard: The drop side hardware can fail causing the drop side to detach from the crib. When the drop side detaches it creates a space in which an infant or toddler can become entrapped and suffocate or strangle. In addition, the recalled cribs can pose a serious entrapment and strangulation hazard when a slat is damaged. This can occur while the crib is in use, in storage, being put together, taken apart or reassembled; or during shipping and handling.

Reports: CPSC and Dorel Asia SRL received a report of the death of 6-month old child from Cedar Rapids, Iowa who became entrapped and strangled in a crib after the drop side hardware broke. The crib continued to be used after the parents tried to repair the drop side themselves. CPSC and Dorel Asia received reports of 31 drop side incidents. In six of those incidents, children were entrapped between the drop side and crib mattress. Three children suffered from bruises as a result of the entrapment. In addition, CPSC and Dorel Asia received reports of 36 incidents of slat breakage, including seven reports of bruises and scratches to children and two reports of entrapment that resulted in no injury.

Description: The following Dorel Asia cribs are involved in the recall:

Model Number	Front Rail	Description
WM1633	Drop side	3-1 Sleigh Crib – Cherry
WM1633-0	Drop side	3-1 Sleigh Crib - Cherry (no castors)
WM1676BC	Fixed	4-1 Bethany James Crib – Walnut
WM1676BCR-DC	Fixed	2-1 Crib – Walnut
WM2163	Fixed	4-1 Crib – Manhattan Walnut
WM2163DC	Fixed	4-1 Crib – Manhattan Walnut
WM1633-0-DC	Fixed	3-1 Sleigh Crib (no castors)
GP004B3EGR	Drop side	3-1 Convertible – Espresso
GP004B3WGR	Drop side	3-1 Convertible – White
GP006BCEGR	Drop side	Single – Espresso
GP006BCWGR	Drop side	Single – White
DA1615B3	Drop side	3-1 Convertible Crib – Natural
DAKM5132	Drop side	3-1 Convertible Crib – White
DASE5005	Drop side	Cottage Hill Single Crib – White
DASE5009	Drop side	Vintage Estate 3-1 Sleigh Crib – Cherry
DA0504KMC-1N	Drop side	3-1 Heritage Crib – Natural
DA0504KMC-1W	Drop side	3-1 Heritage Crib – White
DA1614B3	Drop side	3-1 Lexington Crib – Cherry
DAKM5152	Drop side	Single Jenny Lind Crib - Walnut
DASE5015	Drop side	3-1 Convertible - Toffee

Sold at: K-Mart, Sears and Wal-Mart stores nationwide from January 2005 through December 2009 for between $120 and $700.

Manufactured in: China and Vietnam

Remedy: Consumers should immediately stop using the recalled cribs, find an alternative safe sleeping environment for your child, and contact Dorel Asia to receive a free replacement kit. Consumers should log on to www.dorel-asia.com to order the free replacement kit to prevent child entrapment in these cribs. The repair kits will be provided to owners within the next several weeks.

Consumer Contact: Call Dorel Asia toll-free at (866) 762-2304 between 8 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. ET Monday through Friday or visit the firm’s Web site at www.dorel-asia.com

Important Message from CPSC: CPSC reminds parents not to use any crib with missing, broken, or loose parts. Make sure to tighten hardware from time to time to keep the crib sturdy. When using a drop-side crib, parents should check to make sure the drop side or any other moving part operates smoothly. Always check all sides and corners of the crib for disengagement. Disengagements can create a gap and entrap a child. In addition, do not try to repair any side of the crib, especially with duct tape, wire or rope.

Visit CPSC's Crib Information Center for more information on Crib Safety and Recalls.

4-1 Crib - Walnut, Model # WM1676BC

3 -1 Sleigh Crib - Cherry Model # WM1633 & WM1633-0

3 -1 Lexington Crib - Cherry Model # DA1614B3

3 -1 Heritage Crib - Natural Model # DA0504KMC-1N

3 -1 Heritage Crib - White Model # DA0504KMC-1W

3 -1 Convertible Crib - White Model # DAKM5132

Cottage Hill Single Crib - White Model # DASE5005

Vintage Estate 3-1 Crib - Cherry Model # DASE5009

3-1 Convertible Crib - Natural Model # DAKM1615B3

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Is Your Family Protected?

2010-01-18T21:36:00.000-08:00

I had the pleasure to meet Tara Newby at a baby shower I hosted for my dear friend Shelly a few years ago. She was a sweet, strong woman --- none of us could imagine the strength she'd demonstrate in the coming year.

I didn't know her well at the shower.....nor I do now...but she will always be in my prayers. Her story has touched me deeply. Watch this video and you'll see why:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dR-us_L1iSc

A Change of Heart

2009-12-30T08:29:00.000-08:00

In April I was set on red and white. I've always loved the colors and since there was a high likelihood the kids would be sharing a room I went with it. At our condo (a month before it sold!) Isaac had primary colors, mostly blues and reds. THEN our condo sold, Elyse was born and we bought a new house. After setting up the red & white crib bedding in her new room, something didn't work. I couldn't settle on a paint color I liked and found decor I cared for hard to come by. SO....knowing it would take months to save up and put her room together, I had a change of heart. PINK it is. And I can honestly say I love it through and through. Makes me smile everytime I walk into her room. My smile gets even bigger when I think about the sweet expectant mama who just bought the red & white bedding from us on Craigslist!

A Very Merry Christmas

2009-12-30T07:25:00.000-08:00

Booster Seat Safety

2009-12-22T17:58:00.000-08:00

I'd heard keeping kids in carseats as long as possible (per weight/age restrictions) before transitioning to booster seats was the safest bet.....a new study confirms that and also gives some great tips on ensuring a good fit:

http://abcnews.go.com/gma

The booster seat story is on the gma homepage listed above.

My Sunshine is 4!

2009-12-15T08:28:00.000-08:00

I will never forget Jason exclaiming, "its a boy!" at 2:14pm on 12/15/05 @ Sacred Heart Medical Center in Spokane. Such a wonderful day. Thank you God for trusting us to raise this beautiful boy! He is such a blessing!

Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells

2009-12-06T07:38:00.001-08:00

Sh&*!

2009-12-04T19:21:00.000-08:00

Yes my son has learned his first curse word. The beloved four letter word I mutter when I drop a glass, spill a drink or miss an appointment. When he said, it, appropriately by the way, he was putting a toy together and a piece broke off, he said, "Sh&*!." I could barely contain my laughter but thankfully did. I suggested he use "darn it or shoot." Should have stuck with option #1. He keeps mistaking "Sh&*!" for shoot. He will say "Sh&*!" and then look at me for approval, I will frown and he'll say, "I mean shoot!" It has been quite innocent thus far....but it may turn into a trouble if the profanity squeaks out at preschool while building a tower of blocks. Mom of the year award, right here.

Thankful

2009-11-26T20:33:00.000-08:00

for.....

Elyse's wide open grin & kisses

Isaac's belly laugh

The way Jason looks at me from across the room

The sweet smell of home

Christmas lights

My mom's hugs

My girlfriends who lift me up when the challenges of motherhood get me down

I-90 Community Church

Incredible in-laws

The Office

The way Elyse nestles her sweet face in my neck when she's tired

The sound of Isaac's voice in the morning

How excited Isaac is to start each and every day (even before I've had my coffee)

My job

A fantastic preschool

A full fridge and pantry with good things to eat

Hope.

The Monsters

2009-11-18T18:49:00.000-08:00

Alga Monster Bruce, Ella and Daygo. Meet the 3 monsters that live under Isaac's bed. Apparently Alga is the only one deserving of a full name. They are all nice monsters although Alga is the "nicest monster in the whole world." I asked him if Sully from Monsters Inc was under his bed too and he said with a condescending look, "No Mom, Sully is from my movie." Silly me. Apparently monsters live in cliques too.

Blessed

2009-11-16T06:49:00.000-08:00

I cannot believe it is nearly Thanksgiving! On the same token, I can't wait for Christmas! Why is it Turkey Day creeps up on us out of nowhere but Christmas can seem like forever? Life is good in the Bruce household, challenging at times with the Ice Man, but rewarding and fun nonetheless. Meltdown city took root in our household for about 2 weeks -- one after another until they were coming nearly every day. Our pediatrician gave me some encouragement, some advice and things have improved. Although I am not sure why....partly me being more confident and patient perhaps...or Isaac slowly moving out of this not so fun phase. Last night while organizing photos I came across a video of Isaac talking to my belly that moved me to tears. I cannot believe we were sitting on the same couch 4 months ago, Elyse still in my belly, Isaac an only child. He's such a sweet boy and we are so incredibly blessed to have two healthy kids that make us laugh (and cry on occasion :) take the good with the bad, right?) Here are some pics of some recent adventures.

Ten Tips

2009-11-02T22:57:00.000-08:00

While doing some research today I came across a great article (in my opinion) on Raising Kids Who Care. I have found "Psychology Today" online to be a terrific resource for information on a ton of topics. Here are the 10 Tips I read about:

April 15, 2009, Child Development

Ten Tips for Raising Kids Who Care

How to raise kind children.

Almost all parents want their children to be good people and to be happy. But many parents today are intensely focused on their children's happiness and self-esteem and many parents, research indicates, believe that happiness and self-esteem are a foundation for morality, that "feeling good" will lead to "doing good." Yet self-esteem does not lead to caring and responsibility for others-- greedy corporate executives and gang leaders can have high self-esteem.Here are some tips both for shifting the balance from a "self-esteem and happiness focused" parenting approach toward caring and responsibility as well as for developing key social and emotional capacities in children that are a foundation for both morality and a lasting well-being.

1. Instead of telling your children, "The most important thing is that you are happy," tell them, "The most important thing is that you are kind, and that you are responsible for others."

2. Help your children appreciate others. For instance:
* Don't let them treat a store clerk, waitress, or babysitters as if invisible.* Don't let your child quit a sports team or school chorus without thinking carefully with them about what it means for the group.* Don't let your child simply write off friends he or she finds annoying, or fail to return phone calls from friends or to give other children credit for their achievements.* Expect your child to help around the house, and to be helpful to neighbors.

3. Expect your children to appreciate you-their relationship with you will be a primary model for their other relationships. That doesn't mean making yourself the focus. It means not allowing your children to treat you as a doormat, and expecting them to express some modicum of interest about major events in your life and to thank you for your generosity.

4. Don't focus directly and narrowly on developing your child's happiness and self-esteem. Instead, support your child's developing maturity. Maturity, including the ability to manage destructive feelings, to balance and coordinate our needs with others, to empathize, to receive feedback constructively, to be reflective, and to adjust our behavior, is at the heart of both morality and lasting well-being.

5. While it's important to help children understand and articulate their feelings, be wary of pointing out children's feelings too frequently or drawing a lot of attention to passing emotional states. Doing these things can cause children to dramatize their feelings, and to make their own feelings too precious.

6. Praise your children for specific accomplishments and occasionally tell them how great they are. But avoid constant praising. When children are praised all the time, they can feel judged all the time. Children may feel patronized by unearned praise. And too much global praise-constantly saying "You're terrific"-can make children feel that their essential value is on the line in everything they do, causing them to inflate their importance, taking either too much credit or too much blame.

7. Don't make high achievement the goal of a life. Too much achievement pressure can diminish children's sense of self, make them less able to care for others, and more likely to experience others primarily as competitors and threats. Make achievement one theme in the large composition of a life. Sort out your own feelings about achievement and status so you don't send mixed messages or appear hypocritical to children, undermining your authority.

8. Help your child register kindness and unkindness, justice and injustice in the world. Listen carefully, without quickly judging, to your child's moral questions and dilemmas. Express your own values, and connect them to your child's experiences and interpretations.

9. Don't seek to be your child's friend. You can be very close to your child in many ways, but it's vital that children experience you as an authority, that they idealize you at certain points in their development and see you as someone they want to emulate. Children come to appreciate others as independent and distinct when we appreciate them as distinct.

10. Invite people you are close to and respect to give you feedback about your parenting. When your first child is born, develop a contract with at least two other parents, a promise that they will tell you if they think you are harming your child's moral or emotional development in any way.

Richard Weissbourd is a lecturer in education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, and the author of The Parents We Mean To Be, How Well-Intentioned Adults Undermine Children's Moral and Emotional Development

s-c-a-r-y

2009-10-27T21:51:00.000-07:00

As in real scary, not just Halloween scary. This is why I won't schedule home repairs/estimates without Jason home. Not that he can protect us from every predator out there, but we can both be home and have our "creep" radar on. This story makes my skin crawl:

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2010142028_nicole27m.html

Adventures in '09

2009-10-20T20:04:00.000-07:00

This picture is from Bo's first birthday which was on 10/9. I can hardly believe the cutie pie is already two. It was a wonderful, wonderful time. A delicious lasagna dinner, cocktails, opening presents and yummy cake. Does life get any sweeter? Oh...and I am sure if Isaac were with me here telling this story he would want me to mention the ultra cool monster truck the Martins had at his place setting. :) So kind and thoughtful.

There are now 3 grandkids on my side of the family within one year of each other. Bo is 1, Elyse is 3 mos. and Lilly is just over one month old. We are an incredibly blessed family.

The remembrance walk I mentioned in my last post was touching and far exceeded my expectations. Pain and loss are universal and it was humbling to come together with parents who have lost children 14 years ago, 5 years ago, 3 months ago and are currently going through their devastating loss. One of the most personally touching stories for me was that of a family who had a 1 year old boy with them. They were there to remember his twin, who died shortly after he was born. What a journey -- to be blessed with a beautiful baby boy and enjoy him everyday, yet everyday be reminded of what might of been -- in a son they'll never get to watch grow up. Another couple was there remembering three babies lost in separate pregnancies...and the son they had alive for 4 precious months. Why, why, why. There are not enough tears in the world for these tender people. What meant the most to me about this day was the gray cold of the day, and as we formed a circle and told our stories, the clouds parted above Bellingham Bay and ellicited the most brilliant ray of sunshine. RIGHT on our group. Not to the left. Not to the right. DIRECTLY on this small group of grieving parents and grandparents. It was a day very well spent, in the company of strangers bonded by grief, and in the company of my dear sister in law Michelle, who I continue to love more and more.

Isaac is good these days, loving preschool and his new house. It makes my heart smile when he asks if we can stay home and play. He is a mover and a shaker like his mama but has grown to really love his nice big bedroom and playroom. It is wonderful to have a space that is his and to be able to really spread out and play on the floor. He is coming home from school and playdates with great stories. The other day I picked him up from preschool and his ballcap was on backward. I flipped it around as I helped him get buckled into his carseat and he told me, "Mama the teacher had me take it off for America." It took me a minute, then I realized, "yes the Pledge of Allegiance." Teachers are such angels. They teach our children so much beyond numbers and letters. They really help shape our little people in incredible ways. He is still head over heels with his sister. Kissing and hugging her constantly. She is lighting up the moment she hears his voice in the morning (she and I are usually up about a half hour before he can get up at 7 or so) Elyse is as sweet as ever. I love, love, love newborns. I really do. This 3 month stage is incredible, the smiles, the coos, the ability to fall asleep in the nook of a warm arm, (her not me :) I just adore it. While I love and appreciate every single hand-me-down people have given us, I must admit I get a little sad when I see that the 3-6 mo clothes are already fitting her. What? We just brought her home from the hospital. Wait a minute, those first 4-6 weeks were t-o-u-g-h....nevermind. We are just trying to love on her as much as we can as she goes through these baby stages.

As I think about how much we love to give her hugs and kisses I think of the necessary evil of the season: FLU. And this year...the looming threat of h1n1. Jas and Isaac and I are all vaccinated for the seasonal flu and just today Jason and I were able to get the h1n1 vaccine at a local pharmacy....but Isaac must wait for his pediatrician's office to get the h1n1 vaccine toward the end of the month. We are praying that neither he or Elyse get it before everyone is vaccinated. Elyse of course, can't get any flu related vaccine til January...when she is 6 months old. Cheers to good health and well being. Praying our friends and family are able to steer clear as well.

Remembrance Walk

2009-10-05T12:14:00.000-07:00

Remembrance Walk and Ceremony for Pregnancy and Infant Loss – Bellingham

A Remembrance Walk and Ceremony
for Pregnancy and Infant Loss

Acknowledging, honoring, remembering…

Event Details:

Bellingham, WA: Anyone who has lost a baby during pregnancy, at birth, or within the first year of life, or are friends, family, or care providers of someone who has, is invited to participate in a Remembrance Walk and Ceremony on Sunday, October 11th from 4:30 – 7:30pm at the Fairhaven Village Green. Registration begins the day of the event at 3:45 pm. The event will include a memorial walk to the Taylor Dock and a ceremonial scattering of rose petals on the bay. There will be music, poetry, bereaved parent support information, luminarios, an introduction to Mending Babyloss, plus participants will have an opportunity for a meditative labyrinth walk at the Fairhaven Village Green.

Suggested donation is $10 per individual or $15 per couple.

The event is co-sponsored by Mending Babyloss and Laughing Flower Labyrinth Co.

Mending Babyloss is a newly-established bereavement support group for parents who have lost a baby during pregnancy, at birth, or within the first year of life, and is facilitated by trained volunteers in Bellingham, WA. This is our first walk, and will be the launching fundraiser. Donations will provide books and other resources to grieving parents. Support group facilitators are Christine Gibbs, Licensed Midwife, RN, of the Bellingham Birth Center, Mary Hanson Adler, social worker, and Mary Burgess, MA, CD(DONA), perinatal mentor, childbirth educator, doula, and author of Mending Invisible Wings – a healing journal for mothers who have lost a baby.

Myra Smith, Certified Labyrinth Facilitator, of Labyrinth Artist of Laughing Flower Labyrinth and Landscaping Co. will be creating a special, healing labyrinth walk for this event.

What to bring: Participants should bring themselves and an open heart. Also, please bring a special bead representing your baby, which will be added to our birth loss necklace. This Remembrance Walk and Ceremony will take place rain or shine, so please wear weather appropriate clothing and comfortable walking shoes.

Registration for the Walk will be from 3:45-4:30pm.

For more information, please contact Mary Burgess: maryburgess555@gmail.com
(360) 734-4342

Schedule of Events:

Gathering, Support Information, Activities
Opening and Welcome (Jillian Froebe)
Mending Babyloss (Christine Gibbs)
Poetry and Introductions (Mary Burgess)
Remembrance Walk (Mary Hanson Adler)
Luminarios on the Village Green
Sharing (Jillian Froebe and Christine Gibbs)
Labyrinth Walk (Myra Smith)

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What a worthwhile cause.
I am planning to attend this remembrance walk with my wonderful sister in law Michelle this coming Sunday. Let me know if you would like to come with us or if you'd like me to bring a bead or beads to honor your lost babies. I would love to help any way I can.

Mama Swap

2009-09-29T21:06:00.001-07:00

Great idea for mamas who prefer to shop online -- mamaswap.com
I, as my hubby will attest, LOVE to browse consignment stores but very cool idea!

For those who still doubt.....

2009-09-26T11:28:00.000-07:00

From my friend Tonya & the LA Times:

Spanking lowers a child's IQ, researcher says

September 24, 2009 | 6:00 pm

Being spanked as a child is linked to having a lower IQ, according to a study presented today at the International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma in San Diego.

The relationship between spanking and intelligence is found in children around the world, said the lead author of the study, University of New Hampshire professor Murray Straus. Children in the United States who were spanked had lower IQs -- by 2.8 to 5 points -- than those who were not spanked, Straus found.

Straus studied 806 children ages 2 to 4 and 704 ages 5 to 9. Both groups were retested four years later. How often parents spanked influenced IQ score. "The more spanking, the slower the development of the child's mental ability," Straus said in a news release. "But even small amounts of spanking made a difference."

Straus and his colleagues looked at corporal punishment practices in 32 countries by surveying 17,404 university students. The analysis found a lower average IQ in nations in which spanking was more prevalent. The strongest link between corporal punishment and IQ was for those whose parents continued to use corporal punishment even when they were teenagers.

"It is ... time for the United States to begin making the advantages of not spanking a public health and child welfare focus, and eventually enact federal no-spanking legislation," he said.

How would spanking impact intelligence? Straus suggests that the chronic stress created by regular spanking creates post-traumatic stress symptoms in children. PTSD is linked to lower IQ. Economic status also underlies both spanking practices and IQ, Straus said, a leading researcher on corporal punishment. His studies were funded, in part, by the National Institute of Mental Health.

Another study, reported earlier this month in Booster Shots, found that many poor children are spanked at ages as young as 1 and that the practice is tied to more aggressive behavior by age 2 and delayed social-emotional development by age 3.

-- Shari Roan

Photos: The top chart shows the correlation between parents who use corporal punishment with teenagers and the nation's average IQ. The bottom chart shows the more spanking, the greater the likelihood of post-traumatic stress symptoms. Credit: Murray Straus, University of New Hampshire.

Thank you Fenugreek!

2009-09-22T22:52:00.000-07:00

This herb recommended by a lactation consultant has saved my bacon! It has been so awesome at boosting my milk supply, I can't help but share it. I've had my share of challenges nursing both of my kiddos as babies and it is great to hear about a product, try it and have it work for you.

Getting into a Groove

2009-09-10T14:02:00.000-07:00

Is it really September? The SECOND week of September? How is that possible? This week Isaac started preschool. I think truly I was more excited than he was :) He was most looking forward to using the bathroom there. He was pumped that a) he could use the boys bathroom (he uses the ladies room with me in public) and b) he could go all by himself. So, at last week's open house he announced as we walked in the door, "I have to go potty!" same deal Tuesday for his official first day. What a clown. Of all the things to be excited about! You just never know how these little minds work! His teacher has all the kiddos sit in their chairs til their mom and dad come in and get them and it was really sweet, the minute he saw Elyse and I he sprinted over to use with a huge smile. He had a great time and is going to learn A LOT. At the open house I was really surprised at how pushy the girls his age were. Don't get me wrong, little boys throw their weight around too...but I guess I haven't been around a ton of 3 year old girls. Very verbal, very pushy. (some might say the same thing about me from time to time NOW) He wanted to play in the playhouse in the classroom and the sassy girls were saying "No! This is our playhouse! We don't want you here! Go away!" Isaac just stood there stunned. Eventually he decided slamming the shutters on the playhouse windows shut was a good comeback. Oh goodness. Boys and girls definitely react differently at this age don't they?!? Boys knock each other down and wrestle, girls say just what they want to and mean it. Elyse continues to be our little sunshine -- her smiles and coos right now are irresistable. We feel so blessed to have her in our lives. She was down to waking once a night but since I returned to work this week she's up twice a night. :) Gotta love her. The video I've posted is from when we first moved into our new house about 2 weeks ago. She's in such a precious phase right now, it is because of "conversations" like these, we still have boxes to unpack and stuff to put away. I just can't seem to put her down for long. I think having an older child teaches you that every phase is very short lived so you've got to enjoy it while they last! Work this week was great, it felt wonderful to be back in the newsroom, working with a fun team and getting a "break" from home! Jas was an all star and took care of both kiddos without a hitch. He's a heck of a papa. I feel so lucky.

6 Weeks...Coming Up for Air

2009-08-19T09:31:00.000-07:00

Wow have these 6 weeks flown by....and crept minute by minute at the very same time. Elyse is doing wonderfully, we couldn't ask for a sweeter bundle. We are loving every milestone with her, especially that big wide open grin we have yet to catch on camera or the sweet closed mouth content smile we see as she drifts off to sleep. The combination of moving into grandma and grandpa's house and welcoming a little sister into our family has been tough on the Iceman. We've watched our charming little man test boundaries he never touched before, throw tantrums that would make the most experienced parent turn red, and say some of the things we parents dread coming out of our children's mouths. Today, though, I can honestly say things are going BETTER. Thankfully, Isaac has taken his emotions out on US and not Elyse. If anything he's overly affectionate toward her and we have to ask him to give her "breaks" from his constant snuggles and kisses. I am learning a lot from my friends -- especially Heidi -- who watched as I struggled to breastfeed in public and put a naughty toddler in timeout at the very same time -- and calmly took over, putting Isaac on a bench for a timeout and explaining that it is NOT ok to yell or hit anyone. Maybe my next post will be a list of what I've learned these past 6 weeks b/c every day has been a blessing and lesson all in one!

New Faces, New Voices

2009-07-27T13:39:00.000-07:00

Our little girl is starting to respond to familiar faces & voices which is super fun to see. She is also getting a chance to meet very special people in her life like Grammy, Aunt Kate, Grandpa Jeffry and Grandma LeAnn. She is so blessed!

Elyse Kate Michelle

2009-07-14T13:51:00.000-07:00

She's a punctual gal! Elyse was born the morning of her due date, 07/08/09, weighing 7 pounds 6 ounces. We are all doing well. She's an eager eater and so far a pretty good sleeper. She gave us almost 5 hours last night, but alas, I realize its likely a fluke :) I think I recall with Isaac his sleep pattern went haywire at about 6 weeks, around the time of a major growth spurt and it took some time to get back on track. She's looking more and more like her brother, a bit darker hair but her nose and chin are definitely Isaac's.

For those of you interested in details.....after 2 weeks of mild contractions I woke up to use the bathroom @ 12:30am on her due date and realized my water was breaking. We were @ the hospital by 1:30am (much thanks to the 520 construction which kept me gripping the armrest and asking Jas to slow down through my contractions -- gotta love grooved pavement and plenty of bumps) and I got my epidural by 2:30am. I started pushing @ 5:15am and she was here at 5:48am. I remember the OB, Dr. Graham, saying, "ok, slow down, gentle pushes" and I am thinking, "What? Why now" Then she hollers up at me saying "look down look down!" and there was my sweet bundle! I couldn't believe she was here so quickly and I felt enormously grateful. I cried a lot more with her than I did with Isaac...I think after losing 2 pregnancies and having a particularly nervous pregnancy (although healthy and normal) with her I was just praising God that she was here and appeared to be ok. Our nurse Jenni was an all star, super calm, reassuring and a heck of a coach. I was a little bummed Dr. Haines couldn't deliver Elyse but he was hiking in the Grand Tetons. Dr. Graham did a great job and I appreciate her expertise and guidance bringing our sunshine into the world.

Dude.....where's my daughter?

2009-07-06T05:59:00.000-07:00

Oh yeah, she's still contently kicking inside my tummy. Dr. Haines said he'd be "very surprised" if I made it to my due date and well, this little girl is about to surprise all of us. It is July 6th just two days shy of my due date and she's just chillin. I have had on and off contractions, mostly at night, for almost 2 weeks. I have been surprised to learn a lot of women have gone through this in their 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, including my stepmom. Wowsers. The new things you learn with each pregnancy are incredible. I have an appointment today, we'll see how things are progressing with little miss soon!

As for the rest of our lives, we are living @ J's parents and still searching for our next house. The deal on the house in North Juanita fell through unfortunately. The inspection raised too many red flags. If we were contractors we'd probably have taken the risk but for a young family on a budget there were just too many neglected aspects of the house and "what ifs." We'll see. The move has been harder on the Ice Man than I anticipated. He loves Maw & Paw's house but lately he's been acting out some and asking to go home, to his own bed. I'd hoped to be spending these last few days, weeks of my pregnancy bonding with him, spending some serious one on one time but he's been a little distant toward me. Sad to see in my 3 year old sweetie, but something I must accept. Lots of changes, not just with mommy, to learn to live with.

Any day now....

2009-06-25T15:00:00.001-07:00

Our little sweet pea gave us a scare this week, starting contractions a bit early and finding out we weren't quite "there" yet. I never thought I would look forward to out of breath, strong, legitimate labor contractions. I am so excited to meet this little girl I can hardly stand it. In the meantime we've temporarily moved to Dave and Cathy's (my in laws) in case labor starts in the middle of the night, Isaac will already be sleeping here. We have also started the process of buying a home in North Juanita & packing up our condo. It is an exciting time in the Bruce household....I just can't wait to hold the latest member of it!

I was induced with Isaac and had a terrific delivery & hospital experience. This time around I feel like a first time mom -- waiting for contractions, praying for my water to break. I really cannot imagine anything cooler than sharing childbirth with Jason again.

Crunch time

2009-06-15T14:39:00.001-07:00

Isaac & my friend Suzie go for a whirl on the merry go round

Isaac gets to test ride Suz's new motorcycle

Isaac and Papa stroll through Downtown Bellingham

Isaac & one of his most favorite people -- Auntie Michelle

Kendall Caroline comes over for a dip in our pool!

It is crunch time and I am procrastinating. We accepted an offer last week on our condo (hooray!) and have been touring homes like nobody's business. We have made 2 offers so far and both fell through. We've moved on to plan B for now....considering staying with Jason's folks who have graciously offered for us to stay there...or renting an apartment for the short term. We're confident we'll find the right house, just praying it happens sometime soon, preferably this summer. Baby girl Bruce is still kickin away in my tummy and the 9 mo random sensations....braxton hicks contractions, nausea, fatigue and soreness are setting in...but they excite me because it means our long awaited baby girl will be here soon! Due date.....3 weeks from Wednesday. Man are we blessed! In the meantime...here are some pics of our latest adventures.

Great story by a former colleague

2009-06-08T20:05:00.001-07:00

"She had gloves on her hands before she had hair on her head."
That'll stick w/me for a long time.
I hope you enjoy this story as much as I did!

http://www.khq.com/global/video/flash/popupplayer.asp?ClipID1=3844604&h1=Chynna%20Nibler%27s%20big%20fight&vt1=v&at1=News&d1=330433&LaunchPageAdTag=Homepage&activePane=info&rnd=39099785

How Do I Keep a Straight Face?

2009-06-02T22:00:00.000-07:00

So the penis talk continues.
Today Isaac was having his "rest time" (which lately has entailed him playing and singing songs for an hour and a half in his bed) and he started calling for me, "Mama I need your help." I went in and he told me he was trying to get his undies back on. I told him his undies needed to stay on during naptime and what was his response? "Mama I wanted my penis to get bigger but it wouldn't get big enough." OH LORD. How do I respond to that with a straight face. The only thing I could muster was a quick glance away to keep from cracking up and telling him "Yes Isaac sometimes our penis needs a rest too." He seemed satisfied with that answer and proceeded to pull on his undies and get snuggled under the covers. My mother says....just wait til he's 14. Oh gosh am I in trouble!

You know it is going to be an interesting day when...

2009-06-01T07:01:00.000-07:00

Your 3-year-old wakes up and the first words out of his mouth are, "look Mama my penis is getting bigger!" Yes he was buck naked in bed announcing this to me at 6:45am. Last night he said the same thing to Jason while he (Isaac) was on the potty and Jason explained to him sometimes it fills with blood and doesn't want to point down into the toilet so you have to make it point down. 3 year old's prompt interesting conversations that's for sure.

Two weeks it was about death and heaven. We were talking about LeAnn (my stepmom)'s dad who had recently passed away. I told Isaac sometimes when people are really sick and old they die. I also told him sometimes young people pass away but that doesn't happen very often. His voice cracked from the backseat saying, "mama I don't want to go away forever. I want to stay with you and papa." :( What a sweetheart. You never know what each day will hold at this age!

Worry, worry, worry

2009-05-26T17:28:00.000-07:00

Sad, sad story from the Associated Press --- so much for we parents to worry about @ home

Mike Tyson's daughter dies after hanging accident

By JONATHAN J. COOPER
Associated Press Writer
PHOENIX (AP) - The 4-year-old daughter of boxer Mike Tyson died at a hospital Tuesday, a day her neck apparently got caught in a treadmill cord at her Phoenix home, police said.
Exodus Tyson was pronounced dead just before noon, police Sgt. Andy Hill said. She had been on life support and police have said their investigation showed her injury on Monday was a "tragic
accident."

"There are no words to describe the tragic loss of our beloved Exodus," the family said in a statement. "We ask you now to please respect our need at this very difficult time for privacy to
grieve and try to help each other heal." Police said Exodus either slipped or put her head in the loop of a cord hanging under the console. Her 7-year-old brother found her and told their mother. She took Exodus off the cord, called 911 and tried to revive her.

Responding officers and firefighters performed CPR as they took the girl to the hospital.
Former heavyweight champion Tyson was in Las Vegas at the time of the accident and flew Monday to Phoenix, where he was seen entering the hospital. Tyson spokeswoman Cynthia Schwartz said the family had not arranged a funeral yet and would release a statement later.

Spoiled

2009-05-25T19:26:00.000-07:00

We are so spoiled living in the Northwest! This weekend the 3 of us had the chance to take the ferry to Bremerton to catch up with a childhood friend of Jason's on Sunday. Dan & Amber Jordan have two kiddos, Cecilia (Cece who is 5) and Ian (who just turned 3). We had a yummy lunch and headed to "the beach down the road." We packed up our Jeep stroller, plastic wheelbarrow and sand toys and made our way to the beach. BOY was it a surprise for us! Our beaches we frequent regularly include the clean, sandy and kid-friendly beaches of Lake Sammamish and Lake Washington. Not the rocky, shell covered (and carcass covered!) beaches of Puget Sound. Needless we were unprepared in our flip flops but we trudged through it, big belly and all (Finley is still part of my name you know) and were able to hike a ways down to a slightly sandier, more "set out your blanket and sprawl out" type of beach. I wish I would've taken pictures of our adventure b/c it was really quite comical. By the time we made it to our "spot" we only had about 10-15 min of play time before we had to hike back out to catch the ferry in time! All I had the time to capture were these photos on Isaac's first ferry ride. He loved it, we loved it and can't wait to do it again. Of course it helped that on the way back Papa introduced Isaac to ice cream Crunch "Dibs." Mmm.

What?!?!

2009-05-18T20:47:00.000-07:00

This would fall under the news headlines that make you go, "what the?!?!?"
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Dogs' water bowl may be cause of fire in Bellevue

The spring sunlight that delighted so many across the Puget Sound region this weekend may have been responsible for setting a deck on fire...

By Sandi Doughton
Seattle Times science reporter

The spring sunlight that delighted so many across the Puget Sound region this weekend may have been responsible for setting a deck on fire Sunday.

After ruling out other possible causes, investigators for the Bellevue Fire Department blamed the blaze in the 17100 block of Northeast Fifth Street on the dogs' glass water bowl. The partially-filled bowl apparently concentrated the sun's rays like a magnifying glass, said Lt. Eric Keenan, the department's community liaison officer. "It's very unusual, but it's not unheard of," he said.

The 11-inch-diameter bowl was elevated above the wooden deck in a wire stand, Keenan said. "There was nothing else in that area that could be identified as a fire source — no smokers, no electrical devices." No one was home when the fire started just before 3 p.m. Neighbors called in the alarm when they noticed flames and smoke. The deck was destroyed and the adjacent kitchen badly burned. Total damage was estimated at about $215,000. The family's two dogs were both apparently unhurt, Keenan said.

Every youngster knows that a magnifying glass can be used to start a fire, and the Internet is replete with tales of other lens-like devices doing the same thing, from partially filled water bottles to a broken light bulb filled with water. Keenan said he's heard of another case where curved glass in a door sparked a fire at a construction site.

University of Washington atmospheric scientist Steve Warren says the dog-bowl theory sounds far-fetched, but not impossible. "The shape, the height and the angle of the sun would have to be just right," said Warren, whose research involves measurement of solar radiation.
Bellevue's investigation is complete, but now the insurance company will examine the case.
"It's causing a lot of discussion ... as to whether or not this can actually happen," Keenan said. "Who knows what they will come up with."

Can I Hear a Hallelujah?

2009-05-06T22:15:00.000-07:00

Children: No Harm to Breast-Feeding From Pacifiers

By ERIC NAGOURNEY

Published: May 4, 2009

Fear not the pacifier. Mothers who worry that letting their babies use a pacifier will reduce the chances of successful breast-feeding should relax, a new study says.

Writing in The Archives of Pediatric & Adolescent Medicine, researchers say they found no good evidence of a link between pacifier use and nursing.

“Pacifiers have traditionally been thought to interfere with optimal breast-feeding,” wrote the researchers, at the University of Virginia School of Medicine. In the 1980s, health officials discouraged their use.

But in recent years, researchers have found evidence that babies who use pacifiers when they sleep may be less susceptible to sudden infant death syndrome. The American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that pacifiers be used for that reason.

For doctors, this means there have been two seemingly competing needs: to encourage breast-feeding, which is healthiest, but to reduce the risk of SIDS.

For the study, the researchers reviewed 29 studies from 12 countries that looked at pacifiers and breast-feeding. The lead author was Dr. Nina R. O’Connor, now with the Chestnut Hill Family Practice Residency Program in Philadelphia. The researchers did find that women whose babies used a pacifier seemed to stop breast-feeding earlier than other women. But it did not appear that the pacifiers were the reason.

The senior author of the study, Dr. Fern R. Hauck, recommended that pacifiers be given when the babe is three to four weeks old.

A Scary Reminder to be Vigilant

2009-05-06T18:44:00.000-07:00

Mom gives baby wrong drug after labeling error

By JOHN STUCKE
THE SPOKESMAN-REVIEW

SPOKANE, Wash. -- Lindsay Lindberg had needed special help from the start.

The infant was born in November with a heart defect that left her fatigued and unable to nurse. Her mother, Courtney Lindberg, had been filling a host of prescriptions at a Walgreens pharmacy in north Spokane.

Medication was supposed to be a temporary solution until surgeons could patch the holes in Lindsay's walnut-size heart that had left her weak since birth.

Instead, because of a labeling mix-up, it could have been fatal. Now the mother is urging other parents to double-check the medicines they bring home from pharmacies for their children. Walgreens has apologized for the incident and says it's spent a billion dollars to prevent similar problems.

The ordeal began about a month ago, when Lindberg refilled her daughter's prescriptions before they flew to the University of California San Francisco Medical Center for the baby's open-heart surgery.

For much of that day Lindsay struggled. She squirmed and panted, sweated and refused to eat. Lindberg recalls a long day balancing a fussy baby and travel bags.

After she called her husband, Mick Lindberg, to say they had arrived safely, she gave another dose of medicine to Lindsay. This time the baby spit up. Courtney puzzled over the clear color of the liquid. Until then that particular medicine had been yellow.

Lindberg grabbed the bottle and read the label. Then she looked more closely: The label was affixed to a bottle containing the wrong medicine.

"It floored me," she said. "Walgreens gave me the wrong medicine, and I had been giving it to my baby all day."

Walgreens says the case is a rare error, and the baby's Spokane cardiologist said no permanent harm was done - although it could have been if Lindberg hadn't caught on so quickly.

Lindberg said she isn't looking for money and isn't even interested in an apology. She wants her story told as a cautionary tale.

"What I want is for them to make sure this doesn't happen again," she said.

"I know that no one did this on purpose," she added. "But it's scary, and I would hope that everyone double-checks their prescriptions."

The nation's largest drugstore chain, with 6,736 stores across the country, has apologized and said it's investigating the case.

"This happens far less than 1 percent of the time," said Robert Elfinger, a Walgreens spokesman.

An agent with insurance claims giant Sedgwick, representing Walgreens, also called the family to apologize and inquire about Lindsay's status.

"Walgreens was sloppy," Lindberg said. "The doctors told us we were lucky. Thank God."

One of Lindsay's prescriptions was for a diuretic called Lasix that drew liquid away from her lungs, enabling her to breathe more easily and drink a mixture of breast milk and infant formula. Another drug was digoxin, a steroid that made the baby's heart beat stronger and faster to pump more blood through her body and compensate for the defect until surgeons could operate.

The pharmacy had stuck a Lasix label on a bottle of digoxin.

The baby has a ventricular septal defect, a hole between the left and right ventricles of her heart. Doctors initially wanted to wait and see if the defect - which occurs in about 1 percent of infants - would heal on its own.

But Lindsay's weight and health faltered, and she needed surgery.

After the medication mix-up, surgeons cut open Lindsay's chest and patched her heart. She is now home and recovering.

Nationally, the volume of prescriptions is staggering.

Pharmacies filled more than 3.8 billion prescriptions last year. Walgreens' 237,000 employees filled about 617 million of those.

The company spent more than $1 billion in the past 10 years on safety programs to curb prescription errors, Elfinger said.

Among the initiatives is a move toward more electronic prescriptions. The federal government began offering financial incentives to doctors this year to submit prescriptions electronically.

The move is seen as a way to cut the number of errors due to tough-to-read handwritten prescriptions and reduce phone time between medical clinics and pharmacies.

The misuse of medications - excluding intentional drug abuse and suicide attempts - leads to more than 1.5 million Americans getting sick, injured or killed, according to a 2006 report by the Institute of Medicine.

Said Walgreens' Elfinger, in a written statement: "We're sorry this occurred and we apologized to the family. We have a multistep prescription filling process with numerous safety checks in each step to reduce the chance of human error. We are investigating what may have happened in this case and will take appropriate actions to prevent it from happening in the future.

This particular article caught my eye b/c this is my old pharmacy in Spokane.
We had nothing but GREAT experiences there.
Pharmacists are human and make mistakes as all of us do in our jobs.

32 Weeks....And Starting to Feel It!

2009-05-05T13:10:00.000-07:00

My belly is growing....and boy am I starting to feel it! This is a pic of my dear friend Rhea and I at her birthday festivities last week on Capitol Hill. Good times. Yummy Italian food. Why is it pregnant women always seem to remember the food? It has been surprising to me how much more I am feeling this pregnancy more than I recall with Isaac. Must be that chasing a 3 year old around constantly. Also I think after you've had a baby you are so much more aware of your body and what it is doing. The last 2 days I have had a sideache on my right side...near where I was fairly certain lil miss has wedged her bottom. This theory was confirmed this morning by our OB. I totally dig Dr. Haines but I must admit....I DESPISE how late his office runs for each and every one of my visits. Grrr. I even switched appts from the hectic Bellevue office to the slightly calmer Issaquah one and also to MORNINGS versus afternoons.....to no avail. Instead of my appts running an hour late they're running 45 minutes late. Tardiness is one of my biggest pet peeves. I have to remind myself as I am sitting in the tiny room with a 3 year old bouncing off the walls that things come up in appts and the docs must allow as much time as needed to make sure all babies and mommies are doing ok. We got out of there just in time for Isaac's speech therapy appt this morning thank goodness. I was happy about that.

Life has been particularily hectic lately b/c we've started daydreaming (and nightdreaming) about a house and a fenced backyard. So, with about 8 weeks to go in this pregnancy, we've decided to put our condo on the market. Yes, during the chaotic, sleep deprived and emotionally draining few weeks of our babe's life we'll be attempting to keep a clean house and sell it 't boot. We're crazy. But then again we didn't need this latest decision to confirm that. We just really want to be in a house and the sooner we make the move, well, the sooner we can literally make the move. We need to remember to leave this all up to God and know that his plan is all mapped out. We can only make certain choices and the rest is entirely up to him. What I do know is he's blessed us with a happy marriage, healthy kids and a roof over our heads. What else can a girl ask for?

Rawwrrrr

2009-05-03T15:13:00.000-07:00

Our first visit in '09 to Pt. Defiance Zoo & Aquarium didn't disappoint! I just love this zoo and all the great creatures you get to see up close. Isaac and his girly friend Allison had a ball, especially checking out the Beluga whale.

Holy Hotness

2009-04-30T07:36:00.000-07:00

Blame the raging 3rd trimester hormones. I just watched an interview done by a friend and colleague of mine (Kim Holcomb of KING 5's Evening Magazine) with Hugh Jackman. I've always thought he was a cutie but wow he just leapt to hunk status in my book. There are few things sexier than listening to a man describe what he loves doing with his kids. (the irresistable accent helps) Here's a link if you want to take a peek for yourself:
http://www.king5.com/video/eveningmagazine-index.html?nvid=356735

Have Your Say

2009-04-17T15:12:00.000-07:00

I've always been a big fan of John Walsh from America's Most Wanted. Amazing that a motivated father, devastated by the death of his son, has help put 1000 violent offenders behind bars, where they belong. I don't know if you caught Oprah this week but Walsh appeared on her show and pleaded with the public to help secure money to continue the Adam Walsh Child Protection & Safety Act. If the public does not act, the act will expire which means we may lose the ability to find out which violent sex offender is being released and where they are living. CREEPY.

Help Get Funding for the Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act

The Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act was passed on July 25, 2006—20 years after Adam Walsh's abduction. The act established a National Sex Offender Registry law, but recent news reports reveal most states will not be in compliance with the law by the upcoming July 2009 deadline. If senators and state representatives don't comply with and fully fund the act, it will expire.

Make your voice heard by imploring your senators and state representatives to comply with Adam's law and give it full funding.

To contact your senator: Go to Senate.gov to find contact information for the senators in your state. Search for your senator by name or state by clicking the arrow from either drop-down menu. Contact information will be provided. To send an e-mail, click on Web Form below his or her name. E-mail your letter to make a difference.

To contact your state representative: Go to House.gov and click on Write Your Representative in the upper left-hand corner. Select your state from the drop-down menu, and enter your ZIP code, including the four-digit ZIP code extension. Contact information will be provided. To send an e-mail, click on Send a Message. On the state representative's page, click on E-mail the Congressman/Congresswoman, and e-mail your letter to make a difference.

Write to Your Senators and State Representative
If you choose to write a letter, fax, telegram or e-mail, you may use the following sample letter. Feel free to modify it how you see fit.

Dear [Senator/Congressman/or Congresswoman]:

I am sure you share my belief that we must do everything in our power to help protect our children from sexual predators in our communities. That is why I am asking for your help today.

I am extremely concerned about how we track registered sex offenders in our country. According to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, an estimated 100,000 sex offenders are unaccounted for and not living where they are registered. Because law enforcement agencies are too underfunded and overwhelmed to track them, these dangerous predators are free to roam undetected from state to state, targeting and re-offending more innocent children.
The Adam Walsh Child Protection and Safety Act, which was signed into law in 2006, created a National Sex Offender Registry, but recent news reports reveal most states will not be in compliance with the law by the upcoming July deadline. Supporters of the law acknowledge there are adjustments that should be made to the law, but they are adamant, as am I, that the basic purpose and spirit of Adam's act must be upheld. The act calls for a National Sex Offender Registry,
which is critical to the safety of our children.

I implore you to reexamine this law with fellow lawmakers, reauthorize it and see that it is fully funded. I realize our country's current economic crisis will not make this charge an easy one, but what could be more urgent and of greater importance than the safety and well-being of our children?

Sincerely,
(your name here)

Speechless!

2009-04-15T21:25:00.000-07:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N4RSho5pCiA

$80,000 For a Year Off?

2009-04-14T22:46:00.000-07:00

Where do I sign up?

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/04/13/nyregion/13bigcity.html?em

Memories...

2009-04-09T15:25:00.000-07:00

We've had a fun week making memories -- these videos are from our happenings this week -- the first from Dylan's 2nd bday party & the second from watching Clark takeoff in Chopper 7 from the shore of Lake Sammamish. (see earlier post for more info on this one--a warning: the 2nd video is 2min long). Loving the Canon Powershot Jas surprised me with for Christmas!

Chopper Landing & Takeoff

2009-04-06T13:31:00.001-07:00

Way too fun for words. I can't believe this guy gets to do this for a LIVING. Today we had the chance to watch Clark Stahl from KIRO 7 Eyewitness News land his helicopter in his backyard. My in laws are his next door neighbors and close friends. My father in law Dave, and Clark, have been good buds since flying in the Army Reserves together. Since we spend a lot of time at Dave & Cathy's house on Lake Sammamish, Isaac has gotten to know Clark pretty well and has heard time and time again that he gets to fly a helicopter for his job. Today he got to see up close what Clark gets to do every day. While today was an experience I am sure Isaac and I won't soon forget.....it is uncanny to think Clark used to commute from his lakehouse via helicopter every day of the week. Lucky guy! He did it for years 'til ownership of the chopper changed hands. Today he told the story of a neighbor who called and left a voicemail at their house years ago and jokingly asked him if he ever planned to leave 2 hours later for work----that he call and let them know in advance. The neighbor said his daughter missed the bus to school, he was late to work...their whole day was thrown off b/c they'd learned to rely on Clark taking off for work before 6am. I love it. Clark adores his job and is so good at it. The reason he landed and took off today is KIRO will be shooting a promotional video soon @ the house and he wanted to practice landing & taking off in this particular chopper as well as give the promo guys a feel for the shoot location. I can see why he hasn't quite retired yet from this job.....
(watch for a later post w/video)

Spring or Spring Tease?

2009-04-05T15:15:00.001-07:00

I've got to laugh about Spring around here. (otherwise we'd cry, right?) I remember my first Spring on the west side of the mountains. On a mild, sunny day like today (65+) I happily packed away my winter sweaters, pants & coats, excited to enjoy a lovely Spring. The next day it was 40 degrees and pouring rain. Fortunately the storage bins hadn't gotten far and I was able to dig out the stuff I needed to survive a Western Washington Spring...until say....July. Ok sometimes we are treated and get a bit of summer in June but it is not to be counted on.

Yesterday we spent the day on the Seattle waterfront, which was wonderful. So fun to stroll through an antique store, have a delicious lunch and enjoy each other's company. Today Isaac and I let papa sleep in and then we all went to our favorite park. My "zen" park. There's something about the place. I get there, I walk on the path and my spirit takes a big breath. Can't put my finger on it but why question a lovely place? Anyway we played on the beach (mostly Isaac as you can see) played on the playground equipment and dug our barefeet in the sand. Heavenly. Summer, can't wait to see you again.

Spring Training 09

2009-04-02T07:57:00.001-07:00

No Foolin!

2009-04-01T08:19:00.000-07:00

Top Ten FREE (or CHEAP) Things to Do with Kids Under Five in Seattle

1.Read My Lips: FREE Story times everyday of the week (except Sunday), both through Seattle Public Library and Mockingbird Books.

2. Kid-Friendly Coffee Shops. Hot Coffee and a slew of new-to-you toys make for a perfect outing any day of the week. From Ballard’s Sip and Ship, to Mosaic in Wallingford, there are a plethora of indoor havens that will keep both moms and kids happy, all for the price of a cuppa joe. My Coffeehouse in Madison Valley scores points with Red Tricycle readers for the sheer volume of toys (and a train table, to boot).

3. FREE Play Areas. With the addition of the new Kids Cove in Bellevue Square and the Pirate Ship at Bothell Country Village, shopping mall’s aren’t just about spending money, they’ve evolved into entertainment complexes. Bonus: University Village has added a new weekly Tuesday Playday program with free activities and story time for the under 5 set.

4. The Center for Wooden Boats just might be a broke mom’s best friend. Kids love wandering the docks, getting up close and personal with tugboats, canoes and sailboats (not to mention the seaplanes taking off nearby). If you’re lucky, you’ll catch a free weekend sail or the bi-monthly free Tug Boat Story Time aboard the historic tugboat Arthur Foss.

5. Kelsey Creek Park. If ‘Old McDonald’ is one of the songs in your musical repertoire these days, a trip to Kelsey Creek Park in Bellevue is a must. Kids love visiting the cows, horses, bunnies, chickens, sheep, pigs and more at the farm in the heart of Bellevue. The playground is the perfect size for toddlers with swings, seesaw, and climbing toys. Walking trails wind through the park, over the creek, and by the pastures.

6. If you have a kid under five, you’ve probably logged a few hours at one of the many Seattle Community Centers drop-in playtimes. For roughly $2 you can get the crazies out just about any day of the week. Another bonus is the once a month kids entertainment programs at the Phinney Ridge Community Center (called Ridge Romp) and Mount Baker’s Pied Piper series. Kids can enjoy magicians and singers, performing pigs and more silliness for only $3 bucks. This weekend Charles the Clown is performing at Mount Baker.

7. Get Crafty! When you’ve spent all week long doing activities with the kids, it’s kind of nice to hand them off to Daddy for a Saturday morning adventure. We suggest several craft sessions that range from free to $5. Planet Happy Kids in Seattle; and in Bellevue, Lakeshore Learning and Bellevue Arts Museum. Make room on the fridge.

8. Seattle Center. There’s a reason the Seattle Center is one of the top visitor destinations – it’s a blast! And you don’t have to spend a dime to keep the kiddies engaged. Let them wander around the sculpture garden, run around by the fountain, emote on the stage. If you really want to hit a homerun, take the bus to the Seattle Center and your kids will look at you with a newfound appreciation and awe. Bonus: If the stock market rallied and you’re feeling flush, spring for some tix to The Children’s Museum. At $7.50 a pop, it’s worth every penny….

9. Furry creatures are a pretty safe bet for a fun day out with toddlers and you don’t need to drop any money to get your animal fix. Visit the horses at Woodinville stables, check out the four legged beasts at Magnuson Dog Park or visit a pet shop. Pet Co on 45th is a great place to visit with fishies, birdies, mice and other small creatures.

10. Museums & toddlers can be hit or miss so it’s hard to cough up admission fees for the wee ones when a melt down and early exit are a distinct possibility. Fortunately, we’ve found some great museum spots that are free for the 4 and under set (and they have wonderful toddler play spaces within them). Two of our favorites are the Burke Museum (kiddos love the dinosaur exhibit) and KidsQuest museum in Factoria, which is free for all ages on Fridays from 5 to 8. You can’t beat that.

-From the bright folks at red-tri.com

The Last of the Litter

2009-03-31T20:56:00.000-07:00

Here's a recent pic of a real sweetie I like to call "Kahuna" He is the last of my mom's litter of shih tzu puppies. He looks just like his mama. If you are interested in finding out more about him email me at amybruce3@hotmail.com.

The News Makes News

2009-03-30T19:55:00.001-07:00

Belo lays off 15 total from KING5, KONG and Northwest Cable News

Fifteen employees were laid off from KING-TV, KONG-TV and Northwest Cable News today.

By Janet I. Tu

Seattle Times staff reporter

Layoff Ledger | A database of job losses, layoffs and plant closures in Washington state

Fifteen employees were laid off from KING-TV, KONG-TV and Northwest Cable News today.

The employees worked in different departments, including news, local programming, sales and engineering. No on-air talent was laid off.

Ray Heacox, president and general manager for the three stations, said the layoffs were the result of economic conditions: With consumers spending less, companies aren't advertising as much.

The fifteen employees represent about 5 percent of the workforce at all three stations.

The layoffs are part of the 150 positions parent company A.H. Belo Corp. said it was cutting nationwide. Belo announced earlier this month it was also suspending its 401(k) matching contribution for all employees and instituting a 5 percent salary reduction for those in the company's management-compensation programs.

Earlier this year, eight Seattle employees were laid off from Northwest Cable News and three others were let go with the closure of the station's Portland bureau, though two of those three were rehired by Belo-owned stations in Seattle and Portland.

Uncertainty

2009-03-30T14:24:00.001-07:00

Has there ever been a time when our futures were so unpredictable? So, literally, "up in the air?" Today more layoffs hit the company where my hubby works & many of my former co-workers still work...KING & NorthWest Cable News. BELO is the parent company for both and for many other newspaper and tv stations across the country. Today's layoffs are part of 150 nationwide to put the company back in the black. A mix of managers, photographers, reporters, producers, and pilots have been affected. It is such a scary time for so many people in so many industries. Boeing, Microsoft, WaMu, media...you name it.

This past weekend I was reminded of what is not so scary --- and what is --- and always will be there --- to provide comfort through the smooth sailing and the rough waves. That is family. It has been a long time since the 3 of us took a vacation together and last week we had the chance to go to Arizona to stay with Jason's folks, who are renting a house for 1 month. It was funny b/c we didn't make a real point about it, or promise one another, but neither of us breathed a word about the financial woes and unemployment worries that waited for us at home. We simply drank it in. The sunshine the baseball the laughter (much aimed at the always entertaining Ian James and Isaac Allen Everett) and boy did it feel good. To come back and realize layoffs were only hours away....yes it was scary...it IS scary....as I write this we have no idea how many people have been laid off in Jason's building or how many still will be....but we also know....we have each other. These "plans" we try and make in earnest are really not ours, but God's, and we have to have faith that when the dust settles, we'll be ok. We'll be better than ok. We'll be together.

OOPS!

2009-03-19T19:58:00.000-07:00

From the Seattle Times:

Google's Gmail gets the "five-second rule"

Posted by Brier Dudley

Remember the "beer goggles" feature that Gmail added last fall, to prevent you from sending drunken rants in the middle of the night?

The experimental "goggles" feature requires you to prove your coherence by doing a simple math test before the mail sends.

A related tool was added this afternoon, and this one's a lot more useful. It also work all the time after you've activated it, and not just the middle of the night, like goggles' default setting.

Gmail calls it "undo send" because it gives you five seconds to halt an outgoing mail, after you've pressed send. It only works if you've gone to Gmail Labs and activated the feature in settings.

"Undo Send" does for words what the five-second rule does for foods (and pacifiers) that fall to the ground: Longer than five seconds, and out they go. Less than five seconds, you can put them back in your mouth.

It's on its way--in RED!

2009-03-17T13:07:00.000-07:00

After scouring Ebay, Craigslist and various websites I was able to score a deal on the "Callie" crib bedding set from Pottery Barn Kids. I was also able to find the pillow sham I have been eyeing for Isaac from "Land of Nod" at a consignment store for $5! It retails for $32! Hooray! Thank you for all of your help, I can't wait to see Isaac and his baby sis' bedroom come together!

The End of an Era

2009-03-17T08:38:00.000-07:00

Today is undoubtedly a sad day in journalism. The loss of the Seattle PI's print version of its paper means fewer viewpoints and limited resources for gathering news in the greater Seattle area. It makes me wonder how many more newspapers will follow suit in the next 5 years. Printing a newspaper is expensive, gathering news is costly and for a long time people have wondered "why bother with paying for the print version" if they can peruse their favorite stories and columnists online for free. I for one, feel like clutching a newspaper early in the morning while sipping coffee is an experience that can't be replaced. On the same token, I've grown frustrated that my daily paper has less to read....less to offer me as a reader...yet the price has remained the same.

Today is also the end of an era, in a cheesier, much less impactful way, for me personally. As of today I am no longer freelance writing and reporting for KING 5 News. I accepted a freelance writing job at FOX Q13 that provides consistent hours, every Tues & Wed night, and learned yesterday KING won't keep me on as long as I am working with a competitor. Not a surprise, but disappointing. I have worked at KING longer than any other station in my career. Almost three years. I have made some good friends who I didn't expect to not see again (although I hopefully will connect with some outside of work) and done some stories I am very proud of. As I think about the PI's difficult transition to an online only format I feel fortunate to have a job in journalism right now, while others in newspaper and tv brace for more layoffs. I pray for their jobs, their livelihood and some sort of peace while this crazy business we adore continues to churn our emotions as part of a confusing but gratifying "machine."

Some Love for my Man

2009-03-08T23:33:00.000-07:00

I can't help but gloat about my guy. He is a wonderful, romantic supportive husband and an unbelievable papa. Today I worked a nightshift and called my guys at about 7 to see how their day had gone. Here's some excerpts from our conversation:

Me: "hi hun what you have you two been up to?"
Jas: "we went to Bellevue Square to check out the lego exhibit but Isaac wasn't really into it."
Me: "oh bummer."
Jas: "no big deal. we went and rode all of the escalators and elevators instead. except for one."
Me: "really?"
Jas: "yeah, we went to the kids play area it was really crowded like last time so we went and rode the escalators and elevators again."

I couldn't help but let a huge smile form on my face. This is what my hubby teaches me everyday about being a good parent. It is not all about playdates and setting limits and teaching letters and numbers. Sometimes it is just about doing. Isaac wasn't into the lego deal today so they went and did what Isaac wanted to do most. They rode elevators and escalators. Any of you who've spent time around Isaac understands how much he loves "machines" of any kind and asking questions about how they work.

It is these types of conversations that remind me what a lucky gal I am. My heart swells when I think about all the cool stuff they do together just the "guys" and how much he's teaching me about being a patient and loving parent. Thank you GOD for letting me share my life with such a GEM of a man!

"Little Mr. Conservative"

2009-03-08T22:06:00.000-07:00

This kid has passion and guts. He speaks better than some world leaders I know I've seen and heard!

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/08/fashion/08conserve.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=krohn&st=cse

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vz1TVpwme0

Thinking Pink....or RED?

2009-02-28T07:19:00.000-08:00

So I am in a bit of a quandry. (one I frankly, don't mind too much being in) I am hoping one of you creative wonderful mommies out there can offer some advice. Jason and I are brainstorming on how to make a toddler bed & crib work in his pint sized room. As we think about where to put "what" (who needs a changing table & rocker anyway...YIKES!) my mind has turned to bedding. I think we've settled on what we want for Isaac--a transportation theme set from the Land of Nod..but as we think about Baby Girl Bruce...we are a bit stuck. I think a mostly white sheet set with accents of red would be really really cute. I am thinking French...pretty and simple...with just a little bit of red and a whole lot of crisp white. Problem is, I have found nothing like the picture I have in my head. Since I have problems threading a needle....I am thinking about asking my uber talented mother in law to help me on this. But nearly everyone I talk to looks at me sideways when I say I am thinking white & red for the baby's crib bedding. I've searched Pottery Barn, Target, Land of Nod and even googled white and red baby girl crib bedding and not come up with what I am looking for. Any suggestions?

A REAL Movie

2009-02-14T21:06:00.000-08:00

I say this because this movie was moving -- simple and moving and compelling -- the way I think movies ought to be. It has been a long time since I've enjoyed one this much.

The WGN Anchors Dance

2009-02-11T22:41:00.000-08:00

From what i have heard...this is for real!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S7ehlw_phys
Enjoy!

Where's my diploma?

2009-02-06T14:47:00.001-08:00

(Isaac and his cousin Ian on Thomas the Train--apparently the coal tender makes a perfect 2nd seat)

After 5 preschool tours, a mountain of paperwork and a lot of contemplating, (and I must mention an hour plus wait for my awesome hubby) Isaac is enrolled in a preschool class for next Fall. We sort of surprised ourselves and were really impressed with the Issaquah Community Center program. I think the reason I kept coming back to it as my #1 choice is the teachers are fantastic and the maximum # of kids in Isaac's class is 14. If you've ever been around 20 3-year-olds you know how insane it can be. Even in a co-op setting with other mamas as we have been the last 2 years, (this year's class is smaller thankfully but the capacity is still 20) it can be overwhelming. I think the low # allows it to be a little more teacher-centered and allow the kiddos to have a little more one on one time. Today I wrapped up a 14 day stint of working early mornings (3:30am alarm YIKES!) so it was Jas that stood in line when registration opened this week. He got there an hour before it started and when he finally got to the head of the line, there were just 3 spots left in the 2 available classes for 3-year-olds. Wow. I feel like I could write an entire blog post on each of the preschools we toured, their rates & our impressions. But alas, time escapes me. This groggy mama is just waking up from a much needed nap. So nice to have that decision made. Now where's my diploma?

Ruby's Jewels

2009-02-03T14:52:00.000-08:00

My mom's shih tzu "Ruby Tuesday" recently gave birth to her 2nd litter of puppies and I am putting the word out in case any of you are interested in a ball of cuteness to bring into your home.

All are purebred shih tzus, come with papers, 1st shots and their first vet check. There are 3 males and 3 females to choose from. She is asking $450 for the two brown & white pups. The four liver-colored puppies (with liver noses) are $650 piece, they are very rare. They will be ready March 5th. What is most important to her is that these pups go to healthy, happy homes so if you can't quite pay the prices listed above, she may be willing to negotiate. My mother is not a breeder -- Ruby is the 2nd shih tzu she's ever owned, and this is Ruby's 2nd litter. Here are some pics of the cuties, including Ruby when she was pregnant with the brood. If you want to learn more about a particular puppy (M/F - colors etc) email Linda at lwlw2@hotmail.com.

I for one, am more of a cat person, but both Ruby & Dot (one her female pups from her previous litter that my folks kept) are absolutely wonderful. Awesome temperments, real sweeties who are content to sleep in their bed or nestle in on your lap.

Marvels & Mischief

Good intentions...

Don't Carpe Diem

Dude points

Sanity saver

Happy Dance!

This will be a tough one to return!

Yummo!

Favorite Books

Things I love this very moment

Happy 2nd birthday Elyse!

So very wise

A good read

"No!"

Parental dilemma

The Latest & The Greatest (and not so)

Good Friday Laugh

Props to my Peeps

Fabulous 5

Adventures w/Grandpa Jeffry

A mother's "2nd child guilt"

The Good Stuff

CHRISTmas

Scary

And mom was "beet red"

Missing Link

Jaded & Bitter

The 11 Rules

Four Stars!

Perspective

An "off morning" turned around!

I love Pandora!

In honor of incredible daddies

One thing I've learned....

Heaven for little boys

Thank you T-Rex

Let go of the G-U-I-L-T

What's your secret?

No Helmet, No Wheels

Mmm GOOD!

I love this kid with every fiber of my being!!!

A little comparison

7 months.....REALLY?

The Whistle

Best idea EVER for early risers!

Two Baby Product Recalls

U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

Graco Recalls Strollers Due to Fingertip Amputation and Laceration Hazards

NEWS from CPSC

U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

Dorel Asia Recalls To Replace Cribs; Pose Strangulation and Suffocation HazardsOne infant death reported, 10 injuries to infants

Is Your Family Protected?

A Change of Heart

A Very Merry Christmas

Booster Seat Safety

My Sunshine is 4!

Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells

Sh&*!

Thankful

The Monsters

Blessed

Ten Tips

s-c-a-r-y

Adventures in '09

Remembrance Walk

Remembrance Walk and Ceremony for Pregnancy and Infant Loss – Bellingham

Mama Swap

For those who still doubt.....

Spanking lowers a child's IQ, researcher says

Thank you Fenugreek!

Getting into a Groove

6 Weeks...Coming Up for Air

New Faces, New Voices

Elyse Kate Michelle

Dude.....where's my daughter?

Any day now....

Crunch time

Great story by a former colleague

How Do I Keep a Straight Face?

You know it is going to be an interesting day when...

Dorel Asia Recalls To Replace Cribs; Pose Strangulation and Suffocation Hazards
One infant death reported, 10 injuries to infants